Just that basically. I have some wonderful friends so I feel immense guilt posting this (and I feel guilty for feeling this way for a couple of years now) because they are good friends to me, but none of them are nearby so day to day I feel lonely. Those friends that are local seem to have no time for me.
I have an almost 2 year old, so I did make some 'mum friends' whilst on Mat Leave but I have been back at work full time for a year now and we only see each other occasionally for play dates and chat on group messaging about once a week. Even those weeks where I have seen them a bit more, we run out of conversation. I don't feel like I belong in their lives, like I am just a passing acquaintance.
I feel ridiculous saying this at 34 but I long for a 'BFF'! A friend to call my own, a friend who I can see after work for an hour with my kid but also someone to spend the evening with after he's gone to bed. Someone who will go dancing with me and invite me out to do anything we did before I was a mum - am I alone in thinking I have not suddenly become incapable of existing as my own person just because I had a child? I feel like a lot of other people wrote me off as 'unavailable' as soon as I had a kid and I'm over here like helllloooo! I'm still alive! Did anyone else feel this way?
Someone to check in on me almost daily, and me to do the same for them without being made to feel like I'm clingy.
I have tried volunteering with the NCT on a regular basis but cannot seem to break the barrier of just polite chit chat at an event and then not making any further progress beyond that meeting. I regret not having been on an NCT ante natal course before having my son as that seems to be a sure fire way to make friends.
In the absence of that environment where you are thrown together with people of your age group and interests (e.g. Uni) where do I start?
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Loneliness - how do I make new friends in my thirties
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littlemisseatsherfeelings · 21/10/2016 10:40
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