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To give up with the Mental Health care system.

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Nerdygalwithabook Sat 02-Jul-16 21:31:08


Here is a bit of backstory.

been on anti Depressents for nearly 6 years, came off of them a while ago. I am turning 20 this month.

I have started going downhill again. Bad anxiety, on valium, can't leave house properly etc, can't handle even being around my partner sometimes. Lost all sex drive, not eating enough, sleeping a lot. Sometimes on bad days get very very suicidal.

My Doctor has referred the crisis team round a few times but they have discharged me everytime. he is trying to appeal fro admission.

My partners Dad has shouted a bit aggressively at the crisis team a couple of times and refused to let them in, or hasn't told me they have arrived to see me, which hasn't helped. So all they can offer is a waiting list for another therapy that i would have to travel too, which I couldnt.

Basically they all think I am making it up, doing it for attention. My partner is going on holiday abroad for two weeks soon and I have been told I have to leave for these two weeks. Basically I was going to go to my mums soon, they are constructing a room for me to stay in, BUT now I'm going to have to go through the stress of going there sleeping on the floor for two weeks, coming back, trying to get more help, and going back again. I dont even think I am strong enough to get there yet! But his parents want me gone. I feel so lost and alone.

Going to A and E is not an option as it would cause too much distress.

I dont know what to do. Just feel like the only thing I can do is to lay in bed and die.

imother Sat 02-Jul-16 21:40:16

It sounds like you are building up walls to accessing help.

If you are suicidal you really should go to the dr or a&E if you think it's a real possibility.

Why can't your mum provide an actual bed?

TBH if your boyfriend's parents don't want you there in his absence then it probably isn't the best/most supportive environment for you to be in which will hamper your recovery.

Why did you come off the ads? Have you been back to GP to get back on them again?

BillSykesDog Sat 02-Jul-16 21:40:53

It sounds like perhaps going back on the ADs might be a good idea.

I know where you're coming from, it's a common complaint that people feel that they're not taken seriously by MH services because they're 'unstable' which is obviously a completely stupid thing for MH services to do as unstable people need them the most.

Perhaps you should see your GP about going back on ADs?

Nerdygalwithabook Sat 02-Jul-16 21:45:32

I dont go to the Doctors, or out haha, so they phone me a couple of times a week. it got to the point where they didnt seem to do anything, but I will talk to the Doctor on Monday about going back on them. My Mum sleeps in her room, my dad in the living room, my brothers have the other rooms. I couldnt go to A and E, I would probably rather stay at home and be a danger to myself. They told my Mum that if I was admitted an ambulance would pick me up and hopefully set me to sleep so I could get there ( Cant go in cars atm). But the Doctor has to go through the crisis team who are being unhelpful.

I feel so hopeless, cant go out, cant deal with anything, there just seems no way out now.

VoldysGoneMouldy Sat 02-Jul-16 21:49:18

You feel unable to go out but you are being prevented by your boyfriend's father from seeing the mental health team? Do you have any other options for residence apart from your parents or his parents, as neither sound appropriate.

Think it's a bit unfair to say you give up on the mental health team, as you not being able to make full use of their services is not their fault, however I do totally undertsand the frustration.

What is it that is stopping you from getting to the therapy sessions?

PurpleDaisies Sat 02-Jul-16 21:49:50

You sound like you need help tonight. If you can't get to a and e could you ring the out of hours GP service?

Nerdygalwithabook Sat 02-Jul-16 21:53:01

I dont think it is unfair tbh, because they didnt offer me much help to be honest apart from to just be safe. And then they shouted at me! Then they offered me no other help, and then shouted some more and told me if I was accused of lying then it was because i didnt include my partner and family in my care plan, which they hadnt given me!!

Also what stops me going out is such bad panic attacks, that even atm Valium doesnt help me when going out, think nearly fainting. I rang 111 earlier and theres not much they can do for a hosuebound person.

IonaMumsnet (MNHQ) Sun 03-Jul-16 12:08:19

Hi folks. We're going to move this thread over to Mental Health in a moment, where we think the OP might get lots more advice and support. Thank you to everyone who has replied so far.

Nerdygalwithabook Sun 03-Jul-16 16:33:20

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