Bit of a long story but I'm a bit stuck and so is ExH so thought I'd post for some advice.
ExMIL has always been a strong lady, when I fell pg with our first 13 years ago she was over the moon and went crazy with baby stuff, very excited at 1st grandchild etc.
Her and FIL live together and have always been financially supportive if not emotionally.
A few years ago FIL needed a major OP and MIL stayed with BIL for a few days. She'd just retired and her and FIL had lots of plans for the house and holidays etc. Out of the blue she took a large overdose which was a huge shock to us all. FIL was in hospital and we, on the advice of the MH team, got her to agree to a stay at the MH unit.
FIL had another week in hospital and doctors advised us not to tell him what had happened just yet as he was weak.
We went home (2 hours away) to sort DC and plan next steps. The next morning MIL's sister had signed her out after pleading calls.
I was at the time.
FIL was finally well enough to go home, we told him about it all and MIL promised age was ok
Then the slow decline, it started with them not socialising, when they used to. Then eventuality not visiting us. ExH and I spilt up and no support for him. Over the course of the next few years they slowly gave up, MIL more than FIL.
She was visited by the community team but as she gets up each day they stopped coming.
GP has prescribed antidepressants which she takes like sweets. Now exH goes down every week to take them shopping. Otherwise they don't leave the house.
He went today and she was staggering around the shops, not with it at all, checking her purse every few minutes to make sure she had change for the car park and asking to go to the cash point even though she'd been.
She only eats yogurt and brioche.
ExH and I have a good relationship and he's obviously upset and concerned. He won't take the DC there anymore as she is behaving so strangely. They don't wash or clean the house, he does it all. She lies on the bed and begs them to stay with her as she's going to die and then keeps asking ExH when he's leaving as she wants him to go.
She refuses the GP and when ExH took her there they gave more pills. She is taking far too many.
I've suggested going private but she won't have it.
I haven't seen them in three years but want to march down there and demand action from someone. ExH is not coping well but wants to do something.
Any suggestions gratefully relieved. My kids are missing the old grandma and grandad and the whole thing fills me with despair. I'm very sure I would not be welcome.
If she won't seek help, is that it? Surely not?
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ExMIL Help needed please, don't know what to do
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SlightlyPeeved · 01/06/2016 10:02
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