Thats it really. It all seems hopeless, I have kept trying to convince myself it will be ok and be upbeat for years but it's not working any more. I seem to have found life inherently traumatic, and it keeps going. What I mean is, there's been so many things that hae hurt me and causd a reaction that feels like tight chest, world spinning, shaky... I guess a sort of overwhelmed shock reaction. And these things seem to pop into my had, or exists as an ache inside. But even though I have focussed on "getting better" for the last few years (rather than trying to pretend I was fine, throw myself into things and then crash as happened before) and feel I understand more now, I don't seem to be getting better. In fact I feel a deep grief for what I've lost, as well as the panic etc when I remember certain things or contemplate the future. I'm scared of people, because I find them unpredictable and I seem to get hurt, obviously the more ill I get the more I have to withdraw or face being dumped by people. I just feel like I dont belong in this world, i'm an outcast and unwanted. I'm now so lonely it physically hurts. I'm going to be assessed for ASD, although I'm having to push a lot for that and just don't have the energy (I basically have to write my own referral). For the record, I can rea facial expressions and stuff, actually quite well, but there seems to be some other element of socialising I've not understood - I'm not sure what though. I have tons of aquainatances and can "do" socialising, but only one friend (that said, I am finding it really hard to leave the house and haven't managed to put on my "mask" and socialise at events for a while. Just dont have the energy to plaster a smile on a show up alone and throw myself in - tbh I've always found that hard but used to go to events with people. Also find house parties much easier than gigs and so on). And I don't seem to fit in anywhere - I love MN cos I feel I'm with my own kind... but irl the people who want to have anything to do with me are not people I feel I have stuff in common with... although in the past I've gone with it anyway, enjoyed friendship for what it was, but inevitably it doesn't last or there are issues cos of huge differences. Also many people I was friends with were a bit ... lost. No judgement, but I always felt older than them, stuff like having no career plans or living in filthy studentesque hovel, or smoking drugs daily. But then they grew up, got more sorted, started eating properly/learnt what a hoover was etc - and somehow I got chucked as part of their old life, or something. Or coupling up and socialising exlusively with other couples. I guess I'm perceived as lost and not trying due to being mentally ill... the people who I appear to get on with best, have interesting conversation etc tend to have interesting profesional jobs, children or children on the way etc, so I am "different" plus they don't want or need new friends.
I've lost so much of my life and hopes to MH issues that started in preteen years but didnt have supportive parents and just felt ashamed and had to hide. I've exhausted treatment options and just feel like a freak who should snap out of it. I try so hard every da just to keep going. I am studying part time and sort of thought it'd help me get better and more capable, but instead it just diverts some of my increasingly limited energy. Im glad I'm doing it but it's not helping as such, in fact obviosuly other areas of life suffrer. As I'm only managing the very basics this is shaky ground. I haven't managed to get out of bed today and I have been thinkig about suicide for over a week, but I'm scared of going to hell. I don't want to upset anyone either, but pretty much no-one would really notice. I don't have a family, even though I've always wanted to have children, pregnancy announcements from all and sundry aren't helping. I cant even do donor IUI in future as my MH will prevent it.
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