When does loss become depression?

[Viewofhedges]

A number of things have happened to me over the last year. Self employment following redundancy hasn't taken off. We've been told by Drs we can't have kids. A close relative is dying. Then this week we had to have a pet put down.

I have had clinical depression in the past and been off the pills for many years. My normal state is OK but I'm naturally melancholic - I see myself as a cork that floats, just about, and I prefer to stay away from medication. I am normally pretty self aware about where I am, when I'm 'low' and when it's just circumstances that are crap.

However these cumulative events seem to have knocked me for 6 and I'm exhausted. Not sleeping well, loads of headaches, lost my appetite etc. All the physical signs. I'm not sure though whether or not I'm just grieving for our losses, or if I ought to actually seek medical help. Would appreciate any opinions or advice on how to get through this. IRL options very limited, though DH is being very supportive.

[Winterbiscuit]

Sorry to hear about your difficult year. I think there'd be no harm in seeing your GP to get checked out, in case there's something they can help with.

[ProfessorPreciseaBug]

There is no harm taking AD's if you get the right ones.
Nor is there the same level of social stigma about MH that used to exist.

You seem to have a lot on your plate.. go and see your GP and try to get some help..

[colouringinagain]

My therapist says that three or more stressors eg one being your pet being put down,places anyone (let alone with a history) at risk of mental health probs. There is literally, only so much you can take. It sounds like you're having a really tough time of it, and that feeling of exhaustion is one to be taken notice of. I would pop to gp and get the current situation registered with them, and then maybe you can review regularly to see if any further action is needed. Take care.

[dangermouseisace]

I had a similar situation to you- lots of life stresses all at once and I couldn't tell whether I was getting more depressed or whether it was just 'life' and therefore not to be medicated (I was already on AD's but didn't want to take more). To be honest, I would see your GP- don't make the mistake I did in trying to soldier on and ending up so far into the abyss I couldn't get out. I think the physical signs are a red flag really. If you're not sleeping and eating that will make you feel even worse etc etc so if AD's help your sleep/appetite you might have more energy to deal with all the c**p you've got on your plate

[Viewofhedges]

Thanks all. Appreciate your responses - they seem pretty unanimous. I will try and get an appt with the GP at the practice who doesn't look at people like me (ie female, and in 30s) as someone who is just 'one of those.'

Even just having strangers say that it sounds like a lot to deal with, helps.