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So low and scared

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nixnjj Sat 30-Apr-16 01:10:20

I suffer anxiety and depression. My son is also unwell so is undergoing various tests at the hospital. The school is being unhelpful, concerned only with attendance rather than his well being. I'm doing my best but anxiety makes me imagine the worse. I feel so terrified I feel frozen. I need to cope better, as a lone parent it's all down to me. Not sure what I'm hoping for in this post but need to get it out. Can anyone understand or even offer advice on how to get through this

Marchate Sat 30-Apr-16 10:50:05

Someone in the school or local authority must be the contact for families with children who have difficulty attending. There will be access to home tuition for catch-up lessons. It won't exactly be advertised as it costs the local authority money, so you have to ask for the service.
You can at least enquire at the education department

LanaorAna1 Sat 30-Apr-16 11:06:33

Sweetheart, you are facing terrific challenges. And you seem to be doing rather well, so take it easy on yourself.

Controlled breathing actually works to calm you down. In through the nose to the count of 5, out through the mouth to 5, get slower with each breath. Don't hold your breath. It takes time to get the knack, but persevere because it really works to cool your poor head.

GooodMythicalMorning Sat 30-Apr-16 11:15:30

Is there anywhere that provides CBT nearby? If there is ask to be referred. (Mine was self referral online so easy) but it really has helped me lots. I couldn't even get out of bed or leave the house this time last year.

BobandKate0H Sat 30-Apr-16 11:27:35

Sorry to crash the party,but just saying you are rather brave to post on here,given the kicking i have received overnight on another thread.

But back to you - have you thought of writing a letter to the school stating why attendance is down and hopefully if they reply you can send a copy to the LEA ?
,i.e. go over their heads .
Otherwise i would not worry about catching up,as others said you can easily revise about WW2 at a later date.
best wishes .

nixnjj Sat 30-Apr-16 15:49:52

Thanks for the replies, having a bad day so will answer in a little while

nixnjj Sat 30-Apr-16 23:02:06

Marchate thank you that is good to know.
Lanaorana and GMM. I meditate, breathing exercise etc but it's like the worries over power me. I actually had a panic attack whilst meditating, very odd experience. I tried CBT online but found my lack of concentration and computer issues made it impossible and am currently on a waiting list for group therapy but your comments have made me realise I should try again, so thank you.
Bob&Kate sorry you had a rough time on here. The school are aware of the issues. The problems have always happened at school and on 3 instances have resulted in them calling an ambulance so they are aware of the problems. My son is yr 6 so SATS/attendance seem to take priority. I managed to get to a meeting with them to explain it all but no improvement on the care the school seem to offer and I have no trust in the First aider for example when he gets tingly I've informed them the consulatant as suggested lying down with legs elevated for a few minutes. Her attitude is well I offered to scribe for him as he was doing a practise test. Result was another faint and another day off school. I would like to make a complaint but the school is an Academy so not sure where to start.

I just need to learn how to control my worries. The rational part of me knows he's not going to drop down dead or SS aren't going to come through the door and snatch him for being in bed sleeping and not at school but the anxious me just spirals with these kind of thoughts. I just want to be able to deal with it and I'm struggling.

Marchate Sat 30-Apr-16 23:40:14

Sadly Ms Anxious always seems to have a louder voice than Ms Rational

Take care

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