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Feeling really upset and anxious for hours/days after bad news stories.

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Bellygirl Thu 10-Mar-16 16:04:35

Hi, I have this issue where if I read, see or hear an upsetting news story (especially anything about kids, vulnerable people or animals) I just feel so so sad, like the kind of sad that makes you feel sick and I know that's a normal response but I then obsess over it for days, it makes me feel really depressed and I get really scared that something bad will happen to someone close to me. I know the obvious answer is to avoid these things but it's really quite hard to avoid everything sad sad I do have OCD and I've now over 10 years or so managed to get all of my compulsions under control apart from the obsessive/intrusive thoughts, does anyone know what I can do?

mugginsalert Thu 10-Mar-16 21:34:38

Hi, sorry I don't have an answer for you but I can sympathise because since I had children I also experience this along with some self generated intrusive thoughts which have the same effect. I hate it, makes me feel I'm not in control of my own thoughts, or else just too fragile too cope when this is not the case.

I can share a few ways that I've approached it:

I kept a log for a few days and found that for me it was linked with being tired, eating too much sugar/caffeine, between 8am-9am or 3pm-6pm (no idea why), and being on the computer too late the night before. So this gives me a chance to control it a little. Have you noticed any patterns about when it gets better/worse for you?

I find mindfulness meditation helpful to see the spaces in between the sad feelings (sorry if that makes no sense).

I remind myself that this is one of those things that probably made evolutionary sense in a wild environment - i.e. being hyper sensitive to threat would make you a great protector of the young in the community. This helps me deal with the fear about things happening to people I know - when I get those thoughts I remind myself that it's just a rather horrible misplaced alarm bell to go check on the kids, for example.

The overwhelming sadness is tough. For me it is linked to feeling helpless about the suffering I see, and it kind of paralyses my mind so I get stuck on that sadness. It helps me to take action in some way: deliberately be kind to someone, say a prayer, donate to charity, help someone at work - it all counts. I try to remember we're all connected - eventually, someone I help could help someone who helps someone who cures cancer, for example. Sorry, that sounds a bit rubbish and trite when I write it, but it works for me.

Hope this helps, sorry for rambling.

Wineandcheases Sat 12-Mar-16 10:46:52

I to find i fixate on things - in councelling I realised I was transferring fears . So they are already there in u but u hide them . Something triggers them you think it's that issue really it's been under the surface and is to do with your feelings your hiding away - Maybe not true for you but worth considering ?

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