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I need some advise please. I have bipolar and the symptoms have effected me since I was around 13 but have got worse around the age of 17. I always knew I had it because my dad does and we are so similar, but I was too scared to go to the doctors. 6 months ago I went and was diagnosed with bipolar straight away. I was put on medication which made me throw up 24/7 and they switched me to another which just made me sleep all day.
I have a one year old son. I wasn't with his dad. I fell pregnant with him literally a week after I broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years (bipolar issues caused us to break up) I slept with someone to "get over him" and I fell pregnant. In a way I was happy because I was excited and I had thoughts that this could change me as a person. I was only 18 when I found out I was pregnant with him. I thought now I had a meaning. I also had attempted suicide in the past and I thought being pregnant would make me safe from myself. Anyway the babies father wasn't happy although we we started "seeing eachother" briefly it never worked out and he doesn't see his son.
Now I'm 18 weeks pregnant again. Truth is the father is out of two possible people. At the time I conceived this baby I was extremely manic. My son was on holiday with my mum and step dad in Paris for 2 weeks. During this time I was extremely manic and had just started my second term at uni. I was speaking to a boy and we really felt for eachother (one of the possible fathers) I then decided to drive up and see him as my son was away. I knew some of his friends through mutual friends. He couldn't meet me till later on so I text one of his friends who invited me over. I then ended up sleeping with his friend and 2 more of them who where also there (at different times) all wore condoms although I know there is a slight chance. I then went to his house and had sex with him with a condom which had broke after he came so it failed. I then told him about the friends I had slept with before him and he was so angry at me and told me to get out. He hasn't spoke to me since really. The following day a different 1 of his friends I also slept with unprotected. At the Time I felt so desperate to get pregnant. I subconsciously wanted to be pregnant. Didn't care who by didn't care about anything other than making sure I would have a positive test at the end of that month. I felt I needed a baby for security from myself so I couldn't hurt myself, so I had someone who loved me. I was so manic I can vividaly remember it. What I can remember shows a different side to me, I even let them record most of the stuff (sometimes I even told them too or did it on my own phone!!) a week later I reflected on it, I felt sick I hated myself I just can't believe I did it.
I didnt even test until Christmas time. I was too scared that my "wish" had came true. My periods where all over the place anyway. I tested at Christmas as was feeling odd and I was pregnant. The scan confirmed it and my dates. Fully formed little baby with a heartbeat. Couldn't abort I felt too guilty considering I wanted this at the time. Came home after abortion consultation cried and cried and cried didn't know what to do.
Found out I was having a girl on Friday. Kept my pregnancy away from the nhs still I was 18 weeks which got me in to some trouble with my midwife. Just have no idea what to do. I feel so bad I feel awful. It's not this babies fault and she should not have to put up with me as a mother just because I couldn't control my feelings. I will now have two babies by two different men none of which are my boyfriends or ever will be. when I'm not manic or depressed I'm fine but I can't control the extremes. Before I had my son I self harmed a lot and had thought about suicide. I started considering it again which is why I wanted to be pregnant because I know I won't feel alone or hurt myself if I've got a baby inside me.
Just don't know what to do anymore. I wish I could just move away start fresh and bring up both my babies and consecrate on improving the future and forgetting the past but so many what ifs like what if I never get better
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bipolar resulted in two pregnancies hate myself don't know what to do
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Littlenala17 · 14/02/2016 13:37
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