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Miserable unmotivated and bored

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Parsley1234 Tue 26-Jan-16 19:33:24

I am all of the above, I cannot find motivation to exercise which would help my mood I think, I exist doing a job which is less than I could do if I was motivated to change, I feal no joy in anything which makes me feal wicked that I'm wasting my life, I have a beautiful son, lovely home, friends who I can't be bothered to see because I can find no positives in life - is anti depressants the answer to stop the lack of motivation and malaise ?

FoofooLeSnoo Wed 27-Jan-16 12:46:48

Im sorry you feel like this Op. I wish I had the answer but I could have written this post myself. I'm so bored with life but don't feel like doing anything. All I do is work and watch telly. And mumsnet obviously! I'm on st johns wort which worked to start with, not so much now. It seems a bit much to take ads for this but i'm wondering about a trip to the GP myself.

ADHD101 Wed 27-Jan-16 13:59:37

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FoofooLeSnoo Wed 27-Jan-16 18:18:40

I find the lack of motivation to exercise hard too as when I run I feel great but it's so hard getting out the door. Do you find you're worse at certain times of the month? I've just started Agnus castus as I feel like my hormones are playing a part.
Thanks for your post ADHD but I don't think it's anything like that for me. It's more of a low level malaise like op describes.

FoofooLeSnoo Wed 27-Jan-16 18:20:14

Sorry I've high jacked this thread haven't I? Sorry again I'm just interested to hear from someone else who feels like this!!

Leigh1980 Wed 27-Jan-16 18:25:12

ADHD I have ADHD too. I'm wondering how you manage to cope with it. I've got a really good job but I struggle to focus on my work and have zero concentration. If you have any tips for me please PM me as I'm really struggling at the moment. TIA

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Parsley1234 Thu 28-Jan-16 11:12:03

I feal like I can't be bothered to do anything worse in the mornings, I creep back to bed when a run/ walk would be more beneficial it's like I don't care can't be bothered ! It's so negative- I feal like I'm all out of options due to my inertia feal so sad and down. No one wd realise this in real life I put on makeup shower house up together I work going for an interview tomorrow it's fucked up thanks for replying foo

FoofooLeSnoo Thu 28-Jan-16 13:26:08

Well good luck with the interview. Maybe a change of job would give you the lift you need? Even just learning something new acts as a bit of a distraction from all the negative stuff.

Parsley1234 Thu 28-Jan-16 14:12:32

Thank you - it's a job working in a deli/ cafe as I'm unsure about what business to start after my lease didn't get renewed on my salon two years ago. My malaise has definitely got worse since then lack of direction, no real time constraints bar school drop off and pick up I think I am holding it together but there is no joy in my heart

chrome100 Fri 29-Jan-16 10:12:59

I go through phases of being really engaged with life, exercising lots, not wasting time online, reading good books etc.

And then phases where I can't even be bothered to shower. I definitely find forcing myself to exercise helps.

When I'm struggling, I tell myself I only have to run for 10 minutes. If, after that time, I want to stop I can. Chances are I start to enjoy it and carry on running which, in turn, kickstarts my life again eventually.

Parsley1234 Sat 30-Jan-16 10:56:31

Thanks chrome I've booked sessions with a pt every day for a month she's a friends daughter so not too expensive but necessary - I cannot get motivated which in turn I feal awful in turn more depressed in turn spend more time in bed vicious spiral so different from last year I was e excising every day fealing good taking care of me why did I let it slip ?

FoofooLeSnoo Sat 30-Jan-16 19:55:00

Parsley I know what you mean about there being no structure to the day. I drop kids off on my days off work and I just drift through the day with no sense of purpose. Like chrome says, it's like I can keep on top of things for a while eg housework, homework, exercise, eating well etc. Then it's like I run out of steam and just can't maintain it. This week I seemed to be almost disabled by my low mood so that I hardly got any housework stuff done. Now the house is a shit tip, mounds of washing and its sending me down even further!
I don't understand how some people can keep up the pace every day. I'm so unhappy today as dh has been out engaging in his hobby with his friends and I've been with kids all day. I feel jealous of his hobbies and passions in life as I have none.

Parsley1234 Sat 30-Jan-16 22:05:02

It is so miserable fealing so low as anything seems too much trouble engaging with friends I can't when I feel like this well very few that I can be honest with and doing anything feels too much of an effort feel so low and tired just want to sleep i think about going to the Dr's but i don't want tablets i am so unengaged with life and feel so terrible for wasting it

FoofooLeSnoo Sun 31-Jan-16 21:13:29

How have you been today parsley? I've managed to get a horrible chore done today that I've been procrastinating about for months so that feels quite good. Other than that the weekends been pretty shit to be honest. Have you thought any more about anti depressants? I'm still not sure its the answer for me. I feel stuck with an unfulfilling life. I always think i wouldn't be depressed if I just had all the things I want like more money, gorgeous house etc. Shallow I know grin

Parsley1234 Sun 31-Jan-16 21:20:38

I feal not great just meh ! Going to dr in am so I won't be going back to bed tomorrow as have work after I'm going to ask for a blood test as bd has had tonsillitis and possible glandular fever and I need all clear before I commit to exercise don't wNt to start then stop. Feal so unable to decide which direction to go in so I end up going back to bed maybe this is part of the process of movement into a new path the contemplation the indecision the sadness. I have cleared 12k of debt last year and have 5 left to go and I'm no happier than I was I don't think materialises is happiness lol X

fuddle Sun 28-Feb-16 10:24:39

Read john gray, how to get what you want and want what you have.. Sorry to butt in but when you have to force yourself out the door to run etc don't you think these are the best work outs ?

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