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So last night we built a fort

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RustyPaperclip Mon 21-Dec-15 18:15:21

Hoping for some advice and guidance and sorry if it is a long post (Also I am fairly new to this)

My DH feels that he is suffering from depression. He asked me to keep an eye on his behaviour and to let him know if I felt that he was acting strangely. There were a couple of times that he was getting angry over small issues, such as not cooking a perfect dinner, which I did talk to him about. I am really glad that he has been totally open about his feelings and that he tells me if he is having a bad time, but I am looking for advice as to what else I can do to help him. I gently suggested a few times that it might help to see a doctor and he agreed last week that it was a good idea. He asked me to book the appointment as he was worried he would not go otherwise, but I can't get an appointment until nearly New Year. This seems to worry him as he feels he needs help sooner.

I am finding it hard to support him even though I have suffered from depression and anxiety on and off for over a decade and was recently signed off from work due to severe stress and anxiety. He has been absolutely amazing when supporting me and it breaks my heart to see him feeling this bad.

He is so incredibly supportive of anyone else suffering from mental health issues but he finds it so hard when he is suffering himself (which I can understand). I suggested that it might help to read some blogs or books about depression as I read some that really helped with my anxiety. Do any of you know any good blogs/books for depression, perhaps from a male perspective?

I nearly forgot to explain the subject title! My husband was having a bad night recently and I said I missed the days when as a child you would build a fort and escape from the world. So I built him a fort out of sheets. He loves it and it is his chance to escape for a while. It might sound childish but we love it!

Marchate Mon 21-Dec-15 18:32:48

How often did he get angry over 'small things' like not cooking a perfect dinner?
Are you managing your own depression now?

RustyPaperclip Mon 21-Dec-15 18:39:38

It has been very recent. He is normally very laid back, although can be sensitive at times.

I am managing my own depression and anxiety through my doctor, which is why I have suggested it might benefit him to consult a healthcare professional.

He has recognised that his behaviour is unusual and luckily openly tells me when he is having a bad day, I just wish I could help him as he has helped me.

RustyPaperclip Mon 21-Dec-15 18:42:38

I think he is feeling frustrated that he is not acting in the way that he believes he should. He is very reluctant to discuss his feelings with anyone else, but I am at least grateful that he is confiding in me.

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