Couldn't decide between secondary school or mental health. I've namechanged for this.
Dd1 is 11 and in year 7. I thought she was ok at school. She had been really excited about starting secondary. Looking back she has not been herself for a few weeks - defensive, shouty, but I put it down to tiredness from school. On Wednesday evening she was in floods of tears and said she'd thought about dying. After lots of tears she said she had scary thoughts in her head and she couldn't get rid of them. She has assessments at the moment and I told her not to worry - I know that's a crap thing to say as my mum always said that and it didn't help...I told dd1 that too. With her permission, I emailed the Head of Year. She wants to go to the GP so I have made her an appointment for next week.
HoY spoke to her yesterday and tried to reassure her. Last night, more tears and whilst helping her with her homework I discovered 2 websites open....one was how to tie a noose and the other 7 ways to kill yourself. I asked her about them and she said she didn't know how they got there, then she said she was just curious.
I am in fits of panic - I'm a worrier too. She had more tears as she doesn't know why she is so sad. After asking some questions it became clear that school is the issue - she described feeling lost and terrified in the corridors; she feels safe at home. She said she wanted to go back to primary school and not grow up. I have emailed HoY again and she has replied saying there are various things they can do and they can refer her to a school counsellor. I will chat with dd1 about it tonight.
I can't stop crying - in secret as I don't want dd1 to see. What do I need to do to help her? I felt so sick when I saw those websites.
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welliesoup · 11/12/2015 10:04
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