Hi, just some advice needed if anyone has any experience that may help. I have met a guy recently we are both divorced and have been single for 3 years. I have had an 18month relationship after my separation but then a gap of 18mths so I could sort myself out. I am somewhere in the middle of menopause (I am 51) so suffer low moods and sleep issues. I have strived to become more independent and and have a good job as well as being mum to two young girls. I have met a guy who is also dad to a young girl. He makes me feel very weird when he describes his relationship with his daughter (she is 8). He dotes on her, strokes her to sleep and says he loves it when she comes in and peels her pjs off and lies next to him for a cuddle. I have tried to suggest this is not wholly appropriate but he gets very defensive and says he is a good dad and all the time she wants this he will do it. He is very lonely and is constantly seeking attention from anyone that will give it. He is nervous and laughs after most conversations or when there is a gap in conversation. He obsesses about exercise although eats a very lazy unhealthy diet. Lastly and most importantly he had a major breakdown after his marriage ended and has been on and off citalopram. He has a cupboard full of it but claims he is not needing it anymore. He admitted to me at the weekend that his mother had been institutionalised for mental health issues and has since died. He sleeps really badly and infact snores so badly I cannot bear to sleep next to him. He enjoys an active sex life but does lots without really getting anywhere if you know what I mean. We have just spent the weekend together and I am questioning wether this guy is the sort of person I want to be around. His weird habits annoy me already and I an very concerned about the state of his mental health. I have tried telling him this weekend that I do not feel ready for a serious relationship but am happy to go out with him. I don't feel this is right now I have thought about it. I am worried he will become obsessive about me and then I will feel guilty at leaving him … any thoughts?
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