I am 21 weeks pregnant and have been suffering tremendously since the moment I became pregnant (before I had even had a positive test). This is my third pregnancy and I had some anxiety and mild PND with both, but nothing that touched this. My world has been completely turned upside down these past few months. I have been in counseling, seen a psychiatrist, tried two SSRIs with little success (part of the problem is that taking anything makes my already severe anxiety go through the roof due to worries about the drug's effect on the fetus, causing special needs, etc.). Of course I also worry about the effects of my anxiety and depression and sometimes feel I have already ruined this baby. This was an unplanned pregnancy although I used to always think I wanted 3 kids. My current two are 7 and 3.5, and I am in a state of panic thinking of going back to the baby phase and balancing everything. I have been so low, no energy, basically ignoring my kids, near daily panic attacks . I am a SAHM and I have basically done nothing with the kids all summer. They are fed, cared for, etc., but I feel like an empty shell of a mom. DH has been incredibly supportive and wonderful, but he doesn't understand the sheer panic and doom I feel. Last week I was basically forced to go to the hospital by my counselor, as she felt some comments I was making were suicidal. I did not end up being committed, but the thought of having to stay as an inpatient terrified me. I considered termination at the beginning and several times since, and I often beat myself up for not going through with it. I worried that everyone would be horrified by me if I did (my husband and mom), even though I know we would have all recovered. Now I feel trapped, panicked, and miserable. I just want a way out of this, I want my life back and happiness with my lovely two kids. I have struggled with anxiety for years, but never anywhere close to this extent. I freaked out last night and even started searching for late term abortion providers, as I feel so desperate and trapped. Where I live this would actually be a possibility, and I can't stop thinking about it. I'm sorry, I know that sounds horrific but I have truly never experienced feelings half this bad and really don't know what to do. I am terrified that I will never love this child, will see it as a burden, and will always remember this worst time of my life when I look at the child. Is there any hope? I have no idea what to do next.
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