Well no, you don't have to battle through without help, especially if you are struggling with your MH. There is help available in terms of couneslling and medication. It is really hard for partners and despite TRYING to be supportive of my anxiety, my DP struggles and can get pretty frustrated at times. No one really understands mental illness unless they have been there themselves.
I've battled depression for years & am on ADs but recently my exhaustion has gone to a whole new level-sometimes I have to crawl up the stairs as I barely have the energy to move. I know what lethargy in depression is like & this is something else.
If I'd broken my arm or something DH would be bending over backwards to help me, but because 'it's all in my head' he just gives me one lie in & expects everything to be back to normal.
Do you think it could be compounded by low iron or vit D? Is it worth thinking about a vit and mineral supplement for a few weeks? Sounds like you really need to talk to DH, however unreceptive he is initially. Has he seen how exhausted you are?
Had my thyroid checked fairly recently (within last few months) & it's at the low end of normal. I have blood last week so am not anaemic. I'm only 40, eat a healthy, balanced diet & take a multivitamin every day so really shouldn't be this exhausted, despite having 2 young children.
But have you explicitly been to your GP and told him/her about the lethargy? There are many physical things that can cause such tiredness. You say that this is dif to depressed-lethargy, which only supports the view that you go to your GP.
Pre-school funding - 15 hours free term after 3 is a godsend. Fr lower income earners it is after 2yrs. Can you contact your HV and ask from referral to home start? A volunteer can come for 2hours a week which may help.
So I went to the Dr today & she's referring me to the ME service, plus recommended going gluten free as my last blood test was equivocal for coeliac disease. Plus she's going to speak to my HV to see if more help there can be accessed. So feeling a bit more positive today.