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I'm Hoho and am a complete shopaholic!!!

(6 Posts)
HoHoHappyHolidays Fri 02-Jan-15 15:48:56

On 31st December I made a vow to stop shopping. DH deals with all the bills and does the grocery shopping so I really don't need to shop.

Yesterday I managed really easily. Today I have this urge to shop but am fighting it. I think I have a problem. I want to cry sad

SuperFlyHigh Fri 02-Jan-15 15:55:24

Is this connected to your MH issue or a separate one, eg an addiction?

I have/had a shopping addiction but know when this comes up and why I do it (boredom, depression etc).

I also know that when I've worked in isolated places with few shops and before I had credit cards etc... that I spent far less and was even encouraged by my mum/friends when visiting them abroad to 'treat myself'.

So in a sense I know exactly why/how I do it now - proximity of shops to work, extra money per week/month when all bills are paid etc.

I think a support group would be good for you and there are also various books you can read/buy on Amazon/bookshops (maybe library would be better?) or website advice. However some of this advice is hit and miss.

I think a lot of people shop to fill a void and often hobbies or community/volunteer work is mentioned as being good.

Good luck and don't be so hard on yourself, you've admitted it here.

HoHoHappyHolidays Fri 02-Jan-15 16:11:48

I start counselling in January so hope to figure out what is causing it, just need some support now ASAP so thank you smile I'm also an OCD toilet user (another issue I need to sort out which started after DC1 was born).

I love my life and myself, just need to get these problems sorted.

HoHoHappyHolidays Fri 02-Jan-15 16:13:03

I just love that feeling I get when I shop... I feel so empty sad

Reekypear Fri 02-Jan-15 16:18:02

I often feel like I need a treat. Shopping makes me feel special. I think it stems from rejection and neglect as a child. When things got bad, mum would take us out shopping. I am getting a handle on it, now I use walking as a healthy way to reconnect with what's important.

HoHoHappyHolidays Fri 02-Jan-15 16:36:05

I think exercise would be good for me too... I'm just so lazy sad

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