Does this sound over anxious, or is it normal?

[BertieBotts]

This is probably going to sound silly

Sometimes I feel like I'm scared to love my DH and DS too much. I feel paralysed by the thought that they might get ill, or die or have a terrible accident and I don't know how I would cope. I feel like I'd rather hole myself away and never love anybody so that I don't have to ever feel that pain. That's stupid isn't it? Or does everybody feel that from time to time?

[CarcerDun]

I get that too. I think (hope) it's normal to get this fleetingly. Thinking about this all day, not so much.

I stupidly told my HV that sometimes at night I hold my hand over DH's nose to check he's breathing. She ruffled her eyebrows...

[AwfulBeryl]

I don't know, I suppose it depends on the impact it has on your life, if its a fleeting moment, a feeling of dread that passes, or something that takes over your life.
I think though that if your feeling bad enough to post about it then you have probably been worrying about it for a while. . Sorry your feeling like this, its shit.
I have anxiety so I really don't know what is normal and whats not - sorry.
I do have lots of sudden horrible thoughts that jump in to my head, they spiral uncontrollably and leave me feeling anxious and stressed.
I suppose I relational person might have these feelings but be able to dismiss them.

[BertieBotts]

These feelings in particular don't take over my life but I am quite anxious in general. So perhaps it's just a part of all that. Anyway thanks for replying :)

[AwfulBeryl]

no problem, hope it has been some sort of help.
It's hard to know whats "normal" and what isn't sometimes.