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What do you do to treat yourself/self-soothe?

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SnowyMouse Fri 21-Nov-14 19:54:00

My therapist has asked me to get together a list of things to treat myself or self-soothe.

So what do you do?

I've got:
order takeaway
go for a walk
go into town and window shop
go out for coffee/a meal
watch DVDs
curl up in bed with a book

KittyandTeal Fri 21-Nov-14 19:58:46

As a treat; all the things you've said plus a nice hot bath.

To self sooth while in a crisis or having a hard time I rock (I look like a full on nutter I bet but I do it in bed in private) or a run my finger down my nose, kind of like stroking it over and over. Very soothing.

CaulkheadUpNorth Fri 21-Nov-14 19:59:58

Mine are:
Lie with a blanket
Watch something on youtube that is calming
Rub my arms and legs with body butter
Plait my hair
Try and notice something beginning with each letter of the alphabet (ie use my thinking brain)

CaulkheadUpNorth Fri 21-Nov-14 20:00:29

Also paint my nails.

Listen to soothing or upbeat music on headphones. For full escapism I do this in bed with the lights off.

SockDrawer Fri 21-Nov-14 20:03:25

Listen to any in a particular series of audiobooks. I don't have to listen to them in order, any one is fine. And I don't even have to start at the beginning, just listen to the general soothing voice telling a soothing tale.

CaulkheadUpNorth Fri 21-Nov-14 20:04:26

It doesn't work for me, but some people finding cleaning and tidying helpful.

Mitchy1nge Fri 21-Nov-14 20:05:00

I have a bath
then another and another and another

is the only way to feel really warm sometimes

but also run, walk, ride a horse, gym, cycle, smoke blush, masturbate

attempt to watch TV but not great at concentrating unless falls within my narrow range of interests

Mitchy1nge Fri 21-Nov-14 20:06:23

I also brush my teeth a lot

is weirdly soothing but prob brushing them away

SnowyMouse Fri 21-Nov-14 21:07:53

Thanks all! smile I'd forgotten I find Stephen Fry reading audiobooks a good distraction/soothing.

TheDogsMissingBollock Fri 21-Nov-14 21:11:09

Curl up in bed, warm
Walk in nature

Queenofknickers Fri 21-Nov-14 21:11:36

Listening to soothing/distracting audiobook like Stephen fry or mitchell and webb helps me.

Spending time with my dog and cats helps and even a short walk with dog can help (says she who can't get out of bed at worst confused)

cakewitch Fri 21-Nov-14 21:11:42

I'd quite like some distraction tonight. Bad bad day.

OneDayWhenIGrowUp Fri 21-Nov-14 21:27:43

Cook a 'proper' meal just for myself
Eat it in my tidied-up living room, candles lit, watching a film
(Takeaway also works)
Organising/re-organising something - kitchen cupboards, bookshelf, paperwork, where I keep things in the bathroom, wardrobe. Huge sense of satisfaction when it's finished.
Going to see a film, play, or museum/gallery exhibition, or an historic building, just for myself because I'm interested in it.
Going for a massage
Going for a long walk somewhere wild.
Buying new books. Reading them, too.
Listen to podcasts or watch documentaries on topics that interest me
Pampery time - using luxury products in the shower/bath, doing an at-home facial or pedicure
Do my makeup/hair/get dressed nicely even if I'm just going to do normal everyday things or perhaps even not going out at all

These are all things that keep me mentally healthy - if I'm in a particularly difficult down patch and can't manage to do normal things, then the biggest thing is just not beating myself up about it, and doing what I can do at that moment.

SnowyMouse Sat 22-Nov-14 19:13:48

Thanks for all the ideas smile

Emmalou85 Sun 30-Nov-14 21:48:01

Go for reiki

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