I have scizoaffective disorder bipolar type. I am psychotically depressed and very I'll.
I am trying my best to look after dc and this means when dh comes in I need a break. I either go to lie down or if I feel up to it visit a friend leaving dh with the dc.
I am unable to visit friends during the day while dh is working as I have three dc two with sn and in my current mind set it's just too stressful.
But visiting friends in the evening does lift my mood and make it easier to cope the next day with the cleaning and dc.
I struggle to do all the cleaning and I see to the kids needs but come 6 I just need a break from the kids and some time to myself so I either go read a book or go meet a friend.
Dh is unhappy cus I'm not doing family activities with him when he comes home. He says it's hard to be sympathetic to me when any spare time I spend lying in bed unless I get a text inviting me out.
I feel like in my current mind state I am not capable of sitting down and playing a video game with dh or watching tv with him and feel his happiness is not my responsibility.
But he says he has no sympathy for me because I can't be that I'll if I am able to visit friends. But he just doesn't understand that visiting friends without dc gives me a break.
I only visit two friends as they are the only ones who know enough about my illness and who I can spend the night crying too if I can't take being happy.
I just feel like I am struggling right now and need to put my needs before dh in order to get better and be able to care for the dc.
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