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Depressed or run of bad luck?

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Snugglesrock · 03/03/2014 19:54

Hi all
Very self indulgent post here apologies from the outset

I'm a single parent to an amazing 5 yr old

Ex was horrendous situation we are close to getting divorce through after he walked out just over two years ago. One minute we were trying for a second baby, the next he was having an affair. Lying to me spending our money an little ones money on her etc etc. never admitted it and then moved straight in with her. Still hadn't admitted it but she is there whenever lo goes there.

I dealt with it at the time admirably. Was a pillar of strength. I already did everything in the marriage and child raising anyway as he was a. Useless and b. worked long hours.

I have always been a perfectionist. Sometimes it's a downfall, sometimes a strength. I am well educated. I had a very good job.

I coped alone for a while before moving closer to parents. I had some friends and I loved my job. But wanted to be able to own home and give lo more of a life.

Moved back. Moved job. I hate my new job. It sucks the life out of me. I had more time with lo when totally alone before moving.

Just after moving back I had a breast cancer scare. It was fortunately nothing serious at all.

I have always had elements of anxiety. Never treated. Never really acknowledged. All of a sudden I became very low on self esteem. Several issues triggered this. I'm fine at work can put on the front and bury myself in it despite hating it so much.

It consumes me totally though. I seem to live just to work have v little time for lo or energy to do anything me. I'm still quite young. Interested in meeting a guy had a few dates. Didn't go so well. Resigned to being alone.

Now my worry is I feel so crap all the time. I pick up every little bug going and end up having time off. I guess it's possibly made worse by such working patterns I have. I have very little if any spare time and when I do it's usually spent vegged out in front of tv.

I'm am so lucky to have family n friends around to help and lo adores them. But I just feel do crap at the mo.
I am seeing a therapist at my own expense but as usual have managed to turn that into improving my career rather than the actual problems.

So (congrats if you've got to the end!!) am I depressed or is this all fair game given what I've been through and I should just give it time??

All advice welcome

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NewJobNewLife · 03/03/2014 20:12

I think it might be both - understandable depression because if an extended period of change, upheaval, emotional stress and rubbish work.

I have had a similar run of stuff lately (different events tho). My GP has prescribed ADs to work alongside time, with the aim of getting me functional in all aspects of life (home and work) ASAP, while time continues to heal.

I would advise talking to your GP. They may think you'd benefit from a short course of Anti depressants, or they may not. But they're the best person to judge and will advise you on how to get your mojo back as soon as possible.

I hope you feel more on top of things soon, however that happens. In the meantime, cut yourself some slack (i.e. stop feeling guilty/wrong for struggling); you've been through a lot and you are only human. Look after yourself.

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Snugglesrock · 03/03/2014 20:55