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uselessidiot Fri 28-Feb-14 11:03:18

Today I plucked up the courage not just to go to the doctor but to actually admit to how bad I feel. I even admitted to cutting myself for the first time ever. Only ever admitted to it on MN before.

It was a disaster. I thought I couldn't feel worse but I do. He said he didn't have time to deal with mental issues as he had sick people to see. He said he didn't see why I felt I needed a doctor and when I showed him some of mycuts and scars he just shrugged and said and?

I've requested an appointment with an other dr but the first available appointment is a week away. I feel so guilty like I've stopped a sick person seeing a doctor. Feel like I've been so selfish. I'm hiding from sharp things because the urge to punish myself is so strong.

Messupmum Fri 28-Feb-14 11:22:52

You should complain about him. Do it right now, and let them know how unhappy you are. Your local mind will help you make a complaint if you contact them. Some gp's are better than others, but I've never been told they don't deal with mh issues. In fact my GP said he'd rather see me if I was struggling, rather than someone with a sore throat.

LastingLight Fri 28-Feb-14 12:44:58

What??? Your gp is an unprofessional idiot and I agree with Messupmum, report him. You are just as ill as someone who is coughing or have a migrain and it is your right to get medical help. Please don't let this ridiculous doctor put you off asking for help.

kotinka Fri 28-Feb-14 12:50:33

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ThefutureMrsTatum Fri 28-Feb-14 12:51:42

Mental health issues account for a third of all illnesses in the UK. Your gp is an idiot. Can you ask the receptionist if there is a doctor who specialises in mental health at your surgery? Or if they are willing to refer you directly to the mental health team for your area and bypass the gp's?
Don't be put off by this idiot, please put in a complaint when you manage to do so.
Take care

uselessidiot Fri 28-Feb-14 12:57:26

I did wonder if I was just being over sensitive. But I took someone with me as id been scared about going and she agreed with my interpretation of the consultation. He made me feel as though I was being lazy and trying to get out of work. I'm not, really I'm not. I'm just struggling to do it all the way normal people do.

ThefutureMrsTatum Fri 28-Feb-14 13:01:15

You are "normal", your just ill.

kotinka Fri 28-Feb-14 13:09:32

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HellsGranny Fri 28-Feb-14 13:11:42

Definitely complain about your GP, no-one should ever be made to feel that mental health issues aren't as serious as physical ones. Well done you for plucking up the courage to go to your GP and I'm so sorry you came across a cuntish one.

P.S. There's no such thing as normal.

randompinkshelf Fri 28-Feb-14 14:57:12

Yes please complain about him. He's not fit for purpose. Sounds like maybe he needs to see someone too.

uselessidiot Fri 28-Feb-14 15:58:38

Have spoken to HV now. He had contacted her re concerns about my parenting.sad

On the plus side she was more sympathetic and didn't seem impressed he'd made me feel worse. I've been weak and called in sick to work. Going to try and get house inspection proof by Monday.

babyheaves Fri 28-Feb-14 16:02:57

You definitely need to complain about him. That's dreadfully unprofessional behaviour.

Sillylass79 Fri 28-Feb-14 16:18:01

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SilverStars Fri 28-Feb-14 23:37:42

Hi you can self certificate for work for a week if that helps.

Great your HV contacted you for some support. Could you arrange to see her for a chat and see what practical support ideas she has. There may be some resources she can refer you to or access for you and she knows now.

It can be usual for a gp o contact a HV or school nurse if a parent hurts themselves. If someone goes to hospital with self harm that is standard practice in many hospitals. So as you spoke and showed self harm injuries that is probably why he phoned, passing on information that a parent is struggling and could do with some support. Not that he sounded helpful!

uselessidiot Sat 01-Mar-14 07:52:44

I've called in sick silver but now I'm stressing about that. Calling in sick is a disciplinary offence and I can't afford to lose my job. I did it figuring I wasn't in a fit state to work but I'm still worried.

LastingLight Sat 01-Mar-14 08:03:04

When you see the other doctor next week, won't she give you a sick note for the days you have already taken off? Can you request an emergency appointment so that you can see her earlier in the week? I really think you need help asap.

uselessidiot Sat 01-Mar-14 08:16:08

The doctor yesterday said I was unreasonable to use an emergency appointment because I wasn't unwell. He said even if it meant waiting weeks that's what I should do otherwise I was wasting their time.

Anyway a sickline doesn't stop it being a disciplinary offence. A colleague had a heart attack and was called while still in coronary care to summon him to a disciplinary meeting. Tbh I think the atmosphere at work has contributed to me being so bad.

ThefutureMrsTatum Sat 01-Mar-14 08:26:34

Your employer sounds like an arse and I doubt they can discipline you for sickness legally, wouldn't that come under mental health discrimination? Definitely get a sick note. Any chance you can use the week to send your cv round to a few places?

longtallsally2 Sat 01-Mar-14 08:27:46

* A colleague had a heart attack and was called while still in coronary care to summon him to a disciplinary meeting. Tbh I think the atmosphere at work has contributed to me being so bad* Wow! Just wow! I am sure that it has.

Apart from you GPs utter crass remark, I think that the above is one of the worst things I have read on MN! OP your GP was utterly wrong to say what he did. Really impressed that you made another appointment with another GP straight away. Unbelievable that someone could be practising with this utterly outdated attitude. angry for you.

LastingLight Sat 01-Mar-14 08:30:17

I'm not in the UK so I don't know your labour laws, but where I live an employer will never get away with that. We do however need a doctor's note if we're off work for more than 2 days.

uselessidiot Sat 01-Mar-14 08:37:23

The union did tell him he could fight it but he felt too ill to do it.

I managed to make another appointment because the person I took with me dragged me to the desk to make one.

The doctor I saw yesterday is actually very young. 30 at the most I'd guess.

LastingLight Sat 01-Mar-14 08:41:34

Good thing you took someone with you, he/she is a good friend.

silvermirror Sat 01-Mar-14 10:30:08

Link here

Google self harm and nice for full self harm gauidance.

Trooperslane Sat 01-Mar-14 10:39:09

Fucking hell op - he's a total arse


SilverStars Sun 02-Mar-14 00:34:28

I wonder why your work says sickness is a disciplinary offence, even one day?! Or if that is even illegal. I agree seeking a job that treats people with some respect when they may be dying would be a priority for me. Sometimes our situations are very responsible for our illnesses - some we can change, others we cannot.

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