Are we screwed? Please help me see clearly

[Queenofknickers]

My psychiatrist considers that I will never be able to do the job I have done since Uni and have all my specialist qualifications in or any job that brings interpersonal stress because it seems to trigger severe, suicidal depression. DH is p/t working but mainly SAHD whose banking qualifications expired plus he hated, hated, hated it. We have 2 DC - how are we meant to do this? Sorry if I'm freaking out but I don't know what our future is if I don't have my profession. I agree with the psychiatrist - I just can't cope with pressure any more. This is my 3 rd nervous breakdown.

[Aniline]

I was once told by a psychiatrist that as ill I was it was unbelievable that I had finished university. I got better and managed several productive years until I got ill again. I can't handle pressure anymore either, so knowing that I chose a job that was little bit under my qualifications and stress levels were tolerable. The job did not cause my present relapse, it was pregnancy/post natal.

[LastingLight]

Queenofknickers I'm so sorry to hear that, I can't imagine what a blow it must be for you. Is there any way in which you can cross train for a different position that will not involve as much interpersonal stress? Can DH increase his hours? Is there something else you can do with your skills, like mentoring or tutoring?

[LastingLight]

Can you write, maybe for a magazine about your specialist field?

[Bowery]

See if there's some advice on uncommonforum dot com

[babyheaves]

I sympathise as I've had similar conversations with my psych. At the moment I'm managing better on a combo of mood stabilisers, but wonder how long it can last. DH and I are looking to sell our house and seriously downsize so I can look to do something else, but goodness knows what.

You may find it useful to start making a plan of what you can do to bring your outgoings down. Would part time work, or working at a lower grade? These are things to think about.

You're not screwed, but will need to make some changes that probably seem insurmountable at the moment, but you will make it.

[babyheaves]

Also, consider applying for PIP. If you're health means that you're not able to work you can get some financial support.