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Social services report has been put in because of how ill I am.

(23 Posts)
Suicidal5833 Wed 19-Feb-14 07:22:26

A child in need report I explained that yes I was too I'll too look after the kids so my mum was but they kept trying to convince me it was so I could get more help well I don't believe them.

Mumof3xx Wed 19-Feb-14 07:25:33

Oh dear
I have little advice or experience to offer
But cannot imagine what your going through

Do they not believe your mum is taking care of the children? Or do they not consider it good enough?

Suicidal5833 Wed 19-Feb-14 07:30:12

They kept saying it was to get me more help. My mother has switched her work patterns so she can take care of them. The kids were not at the appointment with Mia as they usually are as they were down my mums the house was like a bomb has hit it and I couldn't stop cring and I believe I may have talked to myself once or twice. But the kids are not here.

lougle Wed 19-Feb-14 07:31:13

Oh please don't worry, if you possibly can. My DD1 has a child in need report because she has a disability so social services provide me with a carer twice per week.

It's a legal thing, they have to do it. It's no reflection on you at all.

Messupmum Wed 19-Feb-14 07:34:11

It's ok, this is what I've had before. It's scary and can be tough at times, they'll come to your house, check kids bedrooms, chat with the children maybe. There were meetings with all adults involved in the care, hv, nursery teacher, cpn, your mum and the sw. I found these very hard. You feel exposed but they really are there to support you. Once they saw I had a support system around me, and I was starting therapy they closed the case.

Since then I had a phonecall from the sw after a night in a&e, but that was all. I'm on edge this week incase they were informed about last wkend. Just be honest with them, don't get angry, and don't hide anything. It'll be fine. Also if you start attending groups or going to a children's centre, they seem to like that!

Suicidal5833 Wed 19-Feb-14 07:36:06

Thank you both.

LovelyBath Wed 19-Feb-14 16:02:51

Hi again, I feel sorry as i said not to worry about this and they'd need to tell you first. And told you of my experience which was different. Have you had this in the past at all? I'm just wondering why it would be different. Hopefully it will be helpful and supportive.

Suicidal5833 Wed 19-Feb-14 16:25:19

It was a support worker from Mia a charity for disabled children who put in the report not mental health services.

I was completely psychotic when they came and sat there crying the whole time.

This is not your fault

LovelyBath Wed 19-Feb-14 17:43:31

Don't worry...I can imagine it must feel awful as feeling like you are it makes you paranoid, and i didn't realise you had a little girl who is disabled too. It makes sense they want to support you then.. with a mum who's unwell and a little girl with needs they will look at your whole family I suppose for support.

I mentioned my friend and the support she had from the school and ss got her through a really tricky time. Just hoping this doesn't scare yout oo much and you continue to get the help you need xx

LovelyBath Wed 19-Feb-14 17:49:29

Try and think of it positively and what help you could do with, practical things like cleaning or caring- maybe you'll get someone come in and help you with stuff like that. Could be a bonus!

Suicidal5833 Thu 20-Feb-14 06:37:05

Thanks lovelybath

LovelyBath Thu 20-Feb-14 11:54:46

Just keep thinking it's an illness, if you weren't well physically it would probably still be the same situation in terms of needing help. Just keep focusing on getting better.

LovelyBath Sun 23-Feb-14 18:05:45

How's it going with you, how was it on Thursday with the psych? Hope all is OK x

Suicidal5833 Sun 23-Feb-14 18:18:56

Hiya I feel a tiny bit better. The pychiatrist upped one of my meds. It went ok he was better than usual. Thank you for asking.

LovelyBath Tue 25-Feb-14 14:25:45

How are your worries? Are you feeling any better about things like the children? Are the crisis workers coming round to visit you at home?

Suicidal5833 Tue 25-Feb-14 14:58:53

ThAnks lovelybath my mum has taken over the majority of the children's Care no home visits. But I'm feeling a bit better about social services involvement I have been assured they are there to help.

LovelyBath Tue 25-Feb-14 16:08:11

Good try not to let yourself feel guilty about getting help as that might make you feel worse. Do you get on with your mum ok? I hope so. Mine is very anxious which doesn't help. Once I asked her to come round give the children tea, but she got this thing about dust and started dusting everywhere which wasn't very helpful. Not that useful to have someone fueling anxieties is it?

Suicidal5833 Tue 25-Feb-14 18:48:44

I get on with my mum well thank you but I do see her as a bit of a nag. She has been great however taking care of the kids and my husband just made me get in the bath as it's been two weeks and he has made me promise I'll take better care of myself as I'm not eating and not drinking enough so he made me promise.

LovelyBath Wed 26-Feb-14 12:36:31

Your husband sounds good smile Yes looking after yourself will help you feel better. My mum kept blaming me for being ill which was not helpful. It's hard when they start nagging at you and it can make you feel guilty. She's probably just worried about you underneath though.

Suicidal5833 Wed 26-Feb-14 21:32:07

My husband is lovely he went out and brought me bottles of my fave drink and left them dotted round the house as I'm dehydrated. Unfortunately me and my mum argued today.

SoonToBeSix Wed 26-Feb-14 21:48:56

You do now that child in need is not the same as child at risk don't you? It is to help support you really you don't need to worry.

Suicidal5833 Wed 26-Feb-14 23:16:46

Thanks soontobesix that is what they said but I suffer paranoia and didn't believe them.

SoonToBeSix Wed 26-Feb-14 23:41:01

Hope you can trust them and get some extra support. Take care thanks

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