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Work stress

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Buglugs · 04/10/2013 14:09

I have a stressful job - one of those jobs where other people go 'I don't know how you do it'. Have been doing it for a long time and have found it stressful at times in the past. However, recently I just keep feeling like I can't do it anymore. Walking around feeling sick, with a knot in my stomach and today I nearly cried at work. Feel like I'm shit at my job. Also I have been waking up at night a lot worrying, and wondering if I did away with myself would the life insurance pay up...i wouldn't actually go through with that though.

Also I'm trying to finish off a qualification I've been doing and all the stuff is due for the end of the month. There isn't that much left to do but I don't know how I will manage it feeling like this.

It isn't just work. My dad is very ill. I'm vague, distracted and useless. I feel that I'm completely ineffectual in all parts of my life at the moment.

I've had PND in the past and I can feel the symptoms coming back. I made an appointment at the GP for next week. I hope anti d's might help but I'm worried that they won't. Because the basic problem is that I've too much to do and no time for myself. Not sure what to do.

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TheKnightsWhoSayNi · 04/10/2013 15:02

Even if you've been handling it well in the past, taking too much on at once can really pile the stress on. At the moment, you have to keep reminding yourself not that "everythings due" at the end of the month but "it will all be over" at the end of the month.

Can you take a few days off work to finish it? A break can really help matters.

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Buglugs · 04/10/2013 15:07

Thanks for replying. It is a work related thing, which you are supposed to get a bit of time off to do. I'll speak to my line manger as well next week to see if she can help me. She is very nice but I feel embarrassed to admit not coping.

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HoopHopes · 04/10/2013 23:24

If the issue is too much to do, medication probably would not help in the short term wi achieving it all. Your gp could give you a sick note for stress/ anxiety or give you a fit note for reduced hours as you are not coping with work demands maybe. Or could you take holiday or time in lieu if such a thing exists. Failing that tell your line manager you need more time?

If you have a child under 1 you could be diagnosed with pnd but if child over one then perhaps the gp would label you with depression or stress or anxiety? Even if same symptoms it is a different diagnosis when no linger have a young baby. If it is short term due to work and resolved when deadlines over then dealing with it through work may be wise. Or could you ask your line manager to refer you to work's occupational health if you think that would help?

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Buglugs · 05/10/2013 09:54

Thank you HoopHopes. I'm feeling a bit better today just for expressing it to other people and the fact that I am going to gp. I feel a bit more in control. No it's not PND - dd is now 5. I just meant I know I'm depresssed/anxious to a significant degree again, having experienced it before.

I will speak to manager next week, and I will have been to gp by then anyway.