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Challenge from my Psychologist. Write down 3 positive things a day. Join me?

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fuzzpig Thu 05-Sep-13 20:10:16

Background in brief - history of abuse and lengthy depression, self harm, lots of therapy in teens inc psych ward stay. Now suffering from CFS (also known as ME) and having CBT as part of the treatment.

So, we were talking about low self esteem, negative inner voice etc, and she suggested doing this to gradually build up evidence against these thoughts. I've done similar briefly in the past but having done a lot of psychological 'inner work' this year I feel ready to make it stick and I thought doing a thread on it would make me more likely to bother!

I'm off to watch telly with DH in a mo (Big Bang Theory 6 arrived yesterday grin) so won't be back til tomorrow but if anyone wants to do this with me then jump in! Could be stuff you've achieved, nice things that have happened etc.

Mine are:

- Had my consultation over the phone for the first time - was worried it'd feel weird but I stuck with it and found it really helpful.

- Contacted a friend to arrange a meet up while he's visiting home (I hardly ever initiate anything like that)

- Wrote in my treatment journal the same day as my session, instead of leaving it for weeks!


iMe Mon 07-Oct-13 22:05:17

1. Survived the day looking after sick DC at home while feeling under the weather myself without exploding.
2. Tried a new recipe for dinner and I think everyone enjoyed it.
3. My four day monster of a headache is starting to ease.

Bea, Enjoy your holidaysmile

ColouringInQueen Mon 07-Oct-13 22:12:13

1. cleaned house, changed beds, got 2 loads washing in!!!
2. started looking at holidays for next year
3. nice bedtime with dcs

JohFlow Tue 08-Oct-13 15:16:07

Looking forward to my birthday tomorrow

Bought a cheap coffee that tastes like Douwe

Happy that my house is tidy and clean after yesterday's spree

fuzzpig Tue 08-Oct-13 22:10:46

Oops I have 3 days to catch up on!


- had some time to myself while DH took the DCs out for a walk in the woods

- chest infection clearing much faster than usual

- really restful lazy day


- had a great time at work, really laid back even though we all worked hard, great team building as we were all working to a shared goal rather than doing our own thing

- DS was over the moon that his school book bag finally arrived and enjoyed filling it with DH's wallet

- spent most of the evening playing with magnetic letters, DS was pointing out lots of letters and DD did some number work


- been watching scrubs, it's so funny smile

- DS' teacher told me he'd had a brilliant day, he was also wearing a sticker because he tidied up nicely

- collected DD from friend's house and had a nice chat with parent (something I really struggle with)

ColouringInQueen Tue 08-Oct-13 22:30:59

1. got invited out for coffee by lovely mum I haven't done that with before
2. did my meditation practice
3. bought camping gear for proposed trip in a fortnight!

shockers Tue 08-Oct-13 22:33:37

Hello, do you mind if I join you? I've been struggling a bit recently and reading all your positives feels... positive!

After an horrible night (very heavy period, clammy and sleepless), I didn't want to go to work, but I did and this morning was good. I adopted the role of relentlessly upbeat and it worked, despite the stomach pain.

This afternoon was really good. We took a few from the class to film their own nature documentary in a local beauty spot. The children were fantastic (and we all had ice lollies smile).

DD had an awful day at school (her escort witnessed some of it when she picked her up and was still shaky when they arrived home). I'm sad, cross and embarrassed by her behaviour, but I managed to stay very calm and convey my disappointment in the way she'd acted to her in a constructive way. I'm proud of myself because she was goading me to react by sneering and throwing stuff around... I didn't react and later she cried, which is flipping great for a girl who struggles with empathy and consequence.

So, from the bones of a potentially bad day, sprang a good one smile.

iMe Tue 08-Oct-13 23:02:47

A friend phoned this morning and came for lunch.

Made several phone calls I'd been putting off and got things sorted & cogs in motion & matters finalised & weights lifted off my shoulders.

Met somebody and passed a comment that i think got me one step onto the ladder of possibly potentially maybe perhaps one day going back to work. Eek!

musicposy Wed 09-Oct-13 00:30:32

-had a lovely morning working with DD2 (she's 14 - Year 10 - and home ed). She worked really hard and got a B on a practice Maths GCSE paper. Some questions she had just tried and tried until she got it right. It was all very smooth and happy.

-DD2 also gave me a huge hug tonight. Things are much better and calmer than last week.

-got my hair cut tonight and it looks really nice (given that I am quite an old bird grin)

ColouringInQueen Wed 09-Oct-13 19:37:37

1. went for a walk with my lovely friend and the sun shone
2. had a yummy cake from local bakers
3. got s few errands done this wine
4. dh opened some wine...

ColouringInQueen Wed 09-Oct-13 19:39:29

3. got a few errands done this pm blush

fuzzpig Thu 10-Oct-13 04:36:19

grin colouring what a great typo...

Am wide awake for some reason hmm so will do yesterday's now:

- another fun shift at work, we had music on while we moved stuff around so lots of singing along and laughing

- loads of snuggles with DCs in the afternoon

- remembered to take my medication at a reasonable time and fell asleep on the sofa before nine

fuzzpig Thu 10-Oct-13 04:36:52

And welcome to newbies! Love how busy the thread is smile

shockers Thu 10-Oct-13 16:05:15

Thanks Fuzzpig!

Had a great violin lesson.

Missed an appointment that I really needed to get to because I went to the wrong place, but had to drive past the services on the way back, so I nipped in and bought some mini macaroons from M&S.

Spent the afternoon nibbling mini macaroons grin.

FishfingersAreOK Thu 10-Oct-13 19:26:46

shockers mmmmm macaroons.....any left?

Not sure when last updated but am not going to bring down my positivity by beating myself up for missing a couple of days. So todays.

1) DH has man-flu and it only irritated me once. A miracle - normally his huffing and puffing and "woe is me" body language makes me very, very stabby.
2) May have helped I went to the hairdresses to get my roots done so was not there tosee the "woe".
3) I have luffly shiny, swishy, blow-dried-straight hair. <shallow and tossing head in irritating manner emoticon>

ColouringInQueen Thu 10-Oct-13 19:39:27

not so easy today

1. did produce a good painting at college
2. got kids to school and me to college
3. good bolog for dinner

fuzzpig Thu 10-Oct-13 20:38:19

- I'm learning Spanish! There's a new free app called duolingo that I downloaded on a whim and it's really well structured with short quizzes. I am in no way ready to take on proper studying right now so it's nice to try something new with no pressure.

- DCs played so nicely after school doing lots of writing and lego and didn't even ask for their iPad time. Yesterday we broke our usual mon-thurs no telly after school rule as DSD was poorly and rested in front of TBBT, great as we all love it but DS and DD's behaviour was noticeably worse all afternoon. So while we will remain flexibility in case of illness etc we are more resolute in our quest for simplicity as we can see the difference it's making. smile

- tax rebate grin only a little one, but a few things are actually going well financially now after years of struggling - we are still very low earners but we reckon in the new year we can step up our efforts to save more than we'd previously thought smile

fuzzpig Thu 10-Oct-13 20:45:21

Forgot to say happy birthday for yesterday joh! Hope your day was lovely and full of positives smile (don't worry you don't have to write them all grin)

iMe Thu 10-Oct-13 21:12:52

started anti biotics so should start feeling better soon.

DD much better and able to go back to school.

cooked nice dinner and baked a cake.

shockers Thu 10-Oct-13 22:06:03

fishfingers, there were 12, now there are 3.

DS ate 1.

They were mini... very small indeed.

And really, really nice... my favourites were the vanilla ones grin.

musicposy Fri 11-Oct-13 17:05:59

I'll do yesterday's while we are on here.

-went in the evening to see an amateur dramatic production of Death of a Salesman which DD2 is doing for her Eng Lit IGCSE in a few week's time. It was brilliant and we had a lovely evening. Haven't been to live theatre in ages. It was cheap, too!

-met up with some friends in the morning and had a lovely chat.

-had a singing lesson which went well (I'm doing an Grade 6 in a few weeks -eeek!) but am getting on top of some quite tricky songs at last.

All in all good. OP I have duolingo too and am trying to learn French when I have the odd moment. I don't have a good language brain (was unbelievably rubbish at school) but am enjoying it!

musicposy Fri 11-Oct-13 17:06:55

Oops, while I am on here. I'm not posh enough for the Royal We blush

kotinka Fri 11-Oct-13 18:32:30

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spanky2 Fri 11-Oct-13 19:29:53

I haven't wanted to think too hard the last few days .
Carried on and slept when I needed to as I have a migraine .
Didn't make myself eat too much to look normal to my family .

fuzzpig Fri 11-Oct-13 20:08:01

Musicposy glad to see someone else is enjoying the app too. I love it, did more today. I loved and did well at French at school but haven't done any language stuff since GCSE, and I'm enjoying using my brain in that way again. Hopefully if the app does well they'll add some more languages as I'd love to try some more.

My occupational therapist suggested doing some distance learning as part of my recovery, but I don't feel ready. I am an OU dropout as my degree went to hell when I got ME. I have, technically, half an open degree (mostly maths) and I do want to progress further one day, but I'll not be able to use the OU again (restricted status) so I'm trying to put it to the back of my mind and only do non-pressured learning for now - especially as I won't get any more funding and it will cost a lot more.

Anyway. Today's feel a bit easier, I've had quite a blah sort of day but feel surprisingly ok:

- had an awesome lie in. DH took the DCs to breakfast club before heading on to training so they must have left around 7.45... I vaguely recall seeing DD through bleary eyes at some point, but only properly woke up shortly after 9 shock felt really refreshed.

- DS was on the 'happy face' again at school - that's every day this week! Hopefully the teething problems at the start of term (lashing out/tantrums, so was on the 'sad face' a lot) have eased off now as he's realising it's much better to play nicely smile

- thought Fuck it and said yes to DD's request for a takeaway, enjoyed it and was assertive and chased them up when they left something out. They brought it eventually so now I have tiny chocolate coated ice cream bites for later grin

LollipopViolet Fri 11-Oct-13 21:23:51

Have had a rubbish few weeks, but today:

1. Showed my mum and gran the poem I wrote about granddad. The reverend is going to read it for me at his funeral.
2. Had a frank talk with my bosses (was going to hand in my notice, but they've said to take a week's holiday and see how I feel). I didn't cry and got all my points across.
3. Yesterday, I saw my friend and her 2 year old DS for the first time in a couple of months, and kept making her DS laugh by tickling him, which made me smile because he has a very cute laugh smile

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