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Challenge from my Psychologist. Write down 3 positive things a day. Join me?

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fuzzpig Thu 05-Sep-13 20:10:16

Background in brief - history of abuse and lengthy depression, self harm, lots of therapy in teens inc psych ward stay. Now suffering from CFS (also known as ME) and having CBT as part of the treatment.

So, we were talking about low self esteem, negative inner voice etc, and she suggested doing this to gradually build up evidence against these thoughts. I've done similar briefly in the past but having done a lot of psychological 'inner work' this year I feel ready to make it stick and I thought doing a thread on it would make me more likely to bother!

I'm off to watch telly with DH in a mo (Big Bang Theory 6 arrived yesterday grin) so won't be back til tomorrow but if anyone wants to do this with me then jump in! Could be stuff you've achieved, nice things that have happened etc.

Mine are:

- Had my consultation over the phone for the first time - was worried it'd feel weird but I stuck with it and found it really helpful.

- Contacted a friend to arrange a meet up while he's visiting home (I hardly ever initiate anything like that)

- Wrote in my treatment journal the same day as my session, instead of leaving it for weeks!


LoganMummy Thu 05-Sep-13 20:12:57

Went for a lovely picnic with DC which didn't end in us going home early.

Found a toy I'd been looking for for ages.

Got a lovely text from a friend.

98percentchocolate Thu 05-Sep-13 20:17:02

A package I'd been waiting for for ages finally turned up today and dd loves it (was a new toy for her)

Didn't cry today.

DD was in a very cuddly mood today which was lovely.

gintastic Thu 05-Sep-13 20:18:57

DH had a job interview that went well.

He got home early so we had lunch together with no DC's and it was great :-)

Arranged to have coffee tomorrow with a good friend I haven't seen all summer for no good reason.

spanky2 Thu 05-Sep-13 20:35:23

My bathroom and car look shiny because I cleaned them.
The sun felt warm on my face .
I avoided the urge to eat compulsively when explaining to my mum's hairdresser that I can'tsee her anymore because I can't bear to see her and not my mum . We've had a permanent falling out . Realised my mum is a narcissist . Thank you for thread.

KellyGarcia Thu 05-Sep-13 20:42:41

What a fab thread - I am rubbish at following through with the stuff they used to give me to do after counselling.

1. Phoned back my best friend and had a brilliant chat n she really cheered me up and she says I cheered her up too when I would normally make an excuse to end the call and not call back.
2. Really spent some proper quality time with DS2 while DS1 was at school.
3. Headed off for an evening of Big Bang Theory thanks to you!!!! :D

HoopHopes Fri 06-Sep-13 00:11:37

1. Did some housework that needed doing.
2. Managed to say no to something too stressful on me which would call me stress.
3. Spent time in the sun with a walk, which is good for me!

BeaWheesht Fri 06-Sep-13 00:14:57

Oh yes ill join you..

1/ I've finally cleared the toys out from downstairs and organised them all.

2/ dd (3) is starting to make her own proper wee friends

3/ a parcel I've been waiting for arrived.

Are they the right sort of things?

ecofreckle Fri 06-Sep-13 00:16:47

Hats off fuzz for starting your journal and for this cheerful thread.
I started my Christmas shopping as maternity pay ends next month, it feels good to be organised.
I enjoyed a long walk with Eco baby through balmy country lanes and didn't meltdown when buggy got a puncture.
I started a piece of work I'd been putting off.
I'll be back tomorrow!

ecofreckle Fri 06-Sep-13 20:14:51

Fuzz what are your three things today? Mine are that I survived another day of baby induced sleep deprivation and am a day closes to sleeping through, that I didn't let the rain stop us having a walk and that the doctor took action on an issue we're having with Dd. And, it's Friday!

fuzzpig Fri 06-Sep-13 20:27:01

Thanks for reminding me eco grin glad people are joining in!

- had a great home visit from ds' teacher (he starts yrR on mon)

- made time to play piano for a bit

- was brave and POAS (bfn, which is a big relief... mostly)


LoganMummy Fri 06-Sep-13 22:31:01

Got sent a lovely new outfit for DD.

Had a great afternoon with DS and DD at the park.

Had a catch up with a friend.

MajesticWhine Fri 06-Sep-13 22:43:02

- Caught up with friends for a coffee
- Managed to fit in a brief 20 min workout this morning
- DD2 seems happier with her new school and we had a good old chat about how it's going.

BeaWheesht Fri 06-Sep-13 22:50:39

- got dd a birthday present which I think she will adore (is 3 soon)

- ds has been mostly lovely today

- had a good chat with my mum

spanky2 Sat 07-Sep-13 17:21:39

Forgot yesterday .
Did all the the food shopping and put it away .
Enjoyed talking to dcs about their day.
Took eldest ds to riding lesson and it had stopped raining .

ecofreckle Sat 07-Sep-13 19:35:42

Today we walked for four hours in total into city and Back to collect dh's birthday present, and it was a bargain.
I'm looking forward to toad in the hole and strictly this evening.
My dd has had her first cheerful day since this blasted wonder week started.
Your turn fuzz!

BeaWheesht Sat 07-Sep-13 20:42:50

I had a lie in until 930am

I re-read some of Matilda

The dc have been pretty adorable

LoganMummy Sat 07-Sep-13 21:16:18

Had a great afternoon out with DC.

Utilities bill is decreasing at end of month.

Early night tonight.

Your turn!

Millie2013 Sat 07-Sep-13 21:57:41

What a fab idea, thank you OP and thank you everyone else for sharing smile

1. I adore my baby, she is a complete live wire, but she seems to cheer up everyone she meets, me included!
2. I had a lovely surprise through the post
3. I've got a few things planned next week, to give it a bit of structure

Who's next? smile

fuzzpig Sat 07-Sep-13 22:29:17

- Managed a trip to Tesco - not that exciting but part of my goals from occupational therapy is to try and do something vaguely active on days off.

- finally got myself a new coat to replace my threadbare old thing.

- rediscovered chronic pain support thread and am reading it through to catch up with everyone smile

ecofreckle Sun 08-Sep-13 20:19:09

What's your coat like fuzz?
Today I started clearing out the garage. A long overdue job started!
I had a successful trip to car boot to get dd some new toys and a door bouncer.
I found a letter from my mum and didn't cry. She died nearly two years ago and she was my absolute role model for a good mother and general good person.
It's nice to focus on the positive fuzz, let's keep going!

HerbertGistcool Sun 08-Sep-13 20:27:29

Went for a run
Took dc to the park and saw ds2 is getting better on his bike.
A friend texted to find out how my new job is going.

ColouringInQueen Sun 08-Sep-13 20:49:44

Great idea - I'm also supposed to be doing this!

1 helped dh make 2 benches for kids treehouse.

2 had a good sing in Church this morning.

3. Had a nice chat with a mum I haven't really spoken to much before.

MajesticWhine Sun 08-Sep-13 20:56:25

- Went camping (in the rain) with family and whilst it wasn't a riproaring success, nobody killed each other grin
- Just booked a hotel for a family trip to Christmas market.
- Um, scratching around for a third. I put quite a lot of washing on this afternoon. Will that do?

MacaYoniandCheese Sun 08-Sep-13 20:57:17

I should be doing this. I feel a bit bogged down by it all ATM.

-It's a gorgeous, golden September day.

-I have cold wine in the fridge.

-I have half a season of House of Cards left to watch on Netflix.

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