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very panicky can't calm down

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ayalil Sun 25-Aug-13 20:38:07

I am at home and feeling like i can't really breathe which I know is stupid but I am struggling to breathe properly
feel very dizzy and panicked
i think i'm just asking for some hand holding, i am so scared

LEMisdisappointed Sun 25-Aug-13 20:42:03

I'm here - whats brought this on?

ayalil Sun 25-Aug-13 20:42:58

I don't know
I'm not good at being in this house and I've been quite busy all day then I finished what i was doing (cleaning etc) and now feel so so scared

LEMisdisappointed Sun 25-Aug-13 20:44:06

You will be ok, its just "just" an anxiety attack - you wont stop breathing, your body wont let you. What would you like to help distract? talk about your problems, or general chat? I want to help - you'll get through this, it will pass - its all adrenalin and your body will counter it soon, you physically cannot explode from anxiety - even though it feels like it sometimes

LEMisdisappointed Sun 25-Aug-13 20:45:17

ok, cross posts - are you on your own? do you have children?

ayalil Sun 25-Aug-13 20:46:59

I care for my parents they are here
I don't have children altho am pg
I don't know i just want it to go away
thank u for being here

BreasticlesNTesticles Sun 25-Aug-13 20:51:04

You haven't stopped all day, so your body is still rushing and you have slowed down. LEM is right, it is adrenaline.

Breathe in for 3, out for 5, concentrate on doing that for now and you will start to calm down.

27cats Sun 25-Aug-13 20:51:56

Sometimes just gentle walking around the house can help to get the horrible feelings to subside. Also not working too hard to fight it, rather let self naturally 'come down' in time. Maybe after a busy day your body has not caught up and wound down yet? It will pass. brew

ayalil Sun 25-Aug-13 20:53:43

It hurts
I'm sorry im being so stupid

LEMisdisappointed Sun 25-Aug-13 20:56:11

You are not being stupid at all - its an anxiety attack, and it is bloody horrible and scary and frightening, but sometimes you just have to go with it and let it happen. I used to have to put my head into the corner of the sofa when i had them - im on medication now so thankfully few and far between.

where does it hurt?

ayalil Sun 25-Aug-13 20:57:47

my chest hurts a little bit
my head is hurting i feel dizzy and terrified
i'm trying all the breathing stuff

Mindfullness Sun 25-Aug-13 21:04:31

Can you find a meditation app or something online? I find meditation really helpful when I feel like you are. Poor you, it really is so scary sad

ayalil Sun 25-Aug-13 21:05:06

I've never heard of that i will try it thank you

LEMisdisappointed Sun 25-Aug-13 21:10:31

It all sounds like classic anxiety attack. It WILL pass, these things tend to be self regulating, your body just simply cannot produce enough adrenalin to carry it on - at least thats what my therapist tells me grin

Is tere anything that has bought this on or has it come on out of the blue - mine tend to just jump out on me but there is usually something at the bottom of it.

ayalil Sun 25-Aug-13 21:12:15

Been very stressed for a while now loads going on but this feels like it came out of nothing i haven't really done anything today
It won't calm down and I hate crying it's making it 10x worse
so scared sad
thank u for being here x

LEMisdisappointed Sun 25-Aug-13 21:22:06

are your parents around? can you talk to them (just to take your mind off things?)

can you give yourself a foot massage? bath? Go and stand by the back door and look at the stars? see if you can count them, alshtough looking out there window here, i cant see any

ayalil Sun 25-Aug-13 21:24:10

They are here dad is not really able to talk mum is tired
I am looking at the stars I can see a few
I can't stop crying I feel so lost
I don't want to do it anymore

LEMisdisappointed Sun 25-Aug-13 21:36:41

You sound like you are under a lot of pressure. Do you have a partner? is he suppportive? Are you getting any support with caring for your parents?

You are pregnant and you have to start taking some time in the day to look after yourself - even if its just half hour in the bath.

ayalil Sun 25-Aug-13 21:39:07

There is lots of back story but I haven't got a partner, and sisters help sometimes but not much
The breathing was getting better but it's getting worse again

LEMisdisappointed Sun 25-Aug-13 21:48:16

Ok, and it will pass again

We can get over tonight, don't think about your problems for the minute - just concentrate on the stars, can you count them? make pictures in the sky like a dot-to-dot?

ayalil Sun 25-Aug-13 21:50:50

I am doing breathing counting
I am trying with the stars
I don't want to deal with this
I can't stop being so stupid I hate it

LEMisdisappointed Sun 25-Aug-13 21:52:55

08457 90 90 90

This is the number of the samaritans (if you are in the UK), they can talk to you if you need to talk to someone right now.

ayalil Sun 25-Aug-13 21:54:06

Thank you
I'm sorry

LEMisdisappointed Sun 25-Aug-13 21:55:11

It will pass, you are not stupid, you don't have to deal with anything right now - you are pregnant and your hormones will be off kilter, that may be all it is right now, give the samaritans a ring as they can talk to you in real time and get you through this xx

Feel free to pm me at any time, i am shattered though and will have to go to bed soon, although there are lots of other folk around to chat x

LEMisdisappointed Sun 25-Aug-13 21:56:26

Please stop saying sorry - ive been there, with the anxiety and its shit, but it does get easier. You sound like such a lovely person - take care of yourself for a change, yes? make that call x

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