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Mental health

HELP!!! Partner with PTSD

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LittleBabyLucas · 30/07/2013 23:03

I need help and not sure to turn.
DP has been signed off by the MOD as "mentally fit"

He is no where near mentally fit and even though I have tried to talk to him about it he is adamant he is fine because "my CPN said so".

He is very good at hiding his feelings except his temper which is coming out more and more often now that he has been officially put on the sick list awaiting his medical discharge in October.

I love him with all my heart, but me and the rest of his close family are struggling to deal with his outbursts.

One minute he is overly bubbly and excitable the next he is a nasty, vicious and vile man.

I don't think he can see what he is like and living with him is becoming a living nightmare.

He takes everything out on everyone else, including my 17 month old son and his 2 year old daughter and especially his 5 year old son.

I cant begin to imagine what he has been through, I only know the few snippits he has told me about beng trapped in a burning vehicle in Iraq, seeing his best mate be killed in a freak accident in Afghan and being trapped in a snatch landrover while under heavy fire and being one of the very few who survived driving over an IED in another snatch.

There are lots of charities that help service men and women with PTSD but I cant find anything on how to live with someone who is suffering with it.

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mumblechum1 · 30/07/2013 23:06

Oh, you poor thing (and poor him). Have you tried SAAFA at all? I'm sure I heard/read about some sort of support recently; I'll have a google and come back.

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mumblechum1 · 30/07/2013 23:08

www.armywags.com/

This forum for wives/girlfriends of soldiers seems to have an active forum and links to PTSD counselling resources.

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OldLadyKnowsNothing · 30/07/2013 23:09

Combat Stess help families too.

And it would be well worth your dp contacting these guys, when he's ready.

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LittleBabyLucas · 31/07/2013 21:15

Thanks guys, SAAFA are, always a waste of time.
Armywags.com I will look in to
Combat stress, I was told was just for the sufferers but then it was dp who told me that. I will contact people tomorrow once ive been spoken to my gp.

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HoopHopes · 31/07/2013 23:50

Hi the fact that he has a Cpn contradicts his statement that he is mentally fit as if he was the NHS would not use the resource of a Cpn for him, nor would he be medically discharged if it was for mental health reasons.

Hope you can find some charity based or army based support as the only NHS support I have found is a carer's assessment which where I live now is down through Social services.

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