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Mental health

How can I stop myself slipping?

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naswm · 22/05/2006 14:25

I've been feeling good for a little while. I stopped myself looking in this section becuase I didn't want to keep reminding myself of how bad I had been feeling, iykwim. I was starting to enjoy the 'new' me.

Today I have started to feel a bit glum. And now I find mylself lurking in this section..

My highs and lows have always been pretty extreme - but recenlty I have just felt 'better' and I truely believed I was on the right road at long last. But suddenly today I can feel myself slipping. There is absolutely no reason for it either.

Is this normal? Please tell me it wont last? How can I make sure I dont end up at the bottom of the pit again??

I am not so naive that I believed I was 'cured' or that I would never have black days again, but this is a bit of a shock :(

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GIGWIG · 22/05/2006 18:07

Hello naswm,
really sorry to read you're feeling down, sure it is totally normal, everyone has good and bad days, days when you feel good, days when you don't for no apparent reason.

Just try to remember you've been feeling good for a while and it's just today you feel you're slipping - try to think about the longer time you were feeling better, and not focus on the thoughts that you're 'slipping'. It is only one day - think about how you felt when you felt better. One or a few days feeling low doesn't mean you're going to fall back into black days.

Hope this helps a little.

Just do something nice for yourself this evening, if you can, to end the day on a more postive feeling.

zippitippitoes · 22/05/2006 18:13

There is evidence to suggest that depressing music/lyrics perpetuates depression and i think to some extent reading about it eg on here may have the same effect of feeding into anxiety and panic and that oh know it's all starting up again feeling.

You will have low times but try not to get stressed that "I'm going to be ill again". When you say highs and lows have always been extreme if you've do you think they are connected?

naswm · 22/05/2006 18:25

Thanks you two. I am trying to be sensible about this. All I can think about at the moment is getting the kids to bed and having a glass of wine.

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colditz · 22/05/2006 18:30

Comedy DVD's, hot chocolate, phone someone you like, a bath and an early night, to bed with a funny book.

do all this tonight. you will feel a bit better. I suffer with depression, and sometimes this can lift me up a bit.

colditz · 22/05/2006 18:32

Yes, and stay the hell out og this subject! I agree with ZTT, I am only here to tell you what I do to stop myself sinking into the quicksand. Usually I avoid it as it makes me feel like crap. I will post if I think I know thw answer to a direct question, then I leave, pronto.

naswm · 22/05/2006 18:32

thanks colditz. I know I should try what you suggested but right now all I can think about after getting rid of thse two monsters to bed is clearing up the kitchen and the toys then loosing myself in wine

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colditz · 22/05/2006 18:33

Clear up the kitchen now, skip their bath, get them to pick their own toys up by bribing them with biscuits.

zippitippitoes · 22/05/2006 18:36

I'm having a glass of wine too..echo colditz i don't look at this topic unless I see a query i think i have a quick handle on..I'm much better for not letting myself succumb.

Notquitesotiredmum · 23/05/2006 09:40

Hi NASW

Good to hear from you and to hear that you have been feeling brighter. I've picked that up from one or two of your postings - even though the counselling may be going slowly, it feels as if it is steadying the boat for you.

Yes, there will be gloomy days. Doesn't mean that you are slipping back down all of the way, but you don't want to recover too fast either. Your mind/emotions, like your body, need time to strengthen and recover from any trauma.

Sometimes looking in this thread can be a chance to see how far you have come and to encourage others too. You will know if you are spending too much time here. If so, just post and say hello before you buzz off. There are old friends here.

PS Don't forget that alcohol can be a depressant. Hot chocolate (or why bother with the hot. I prefer it undiluted!) can be safer.

naswm · 23/05/2006 09:49

Thanks everyone. NQSTM your comment re friends was really nice. (I know what you mean re alcohol btw, but atm I cannot deal with that as well as everything else)

I am not great today. Feel horrible again. Want to run and hide. Very fed up with it. I suspect I'll either be here lots today or not at all. Cant decide whether indulging in myself (iykwim) on MN is a good or bad thing. Am telling myself hard to snap out of it. Not working so far. Think I might have to go and hide

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GIGWIG · 23/05/2006 09:55

Know what you mean about whether you're 'indulging or not' . Doing something practical or active however small can be good in many ways.

I always find doing something, anything atall, makes me feel so much better if I am feeling low. Can be simply clearing out a cupboard if I cant get out, or going for a walk, or taking DS to favourite place we like going to. That generates some energy which then can spur you onto to something else.

naswm · 23/05/2006 10:15

thanks gigwig I am doing what I can

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naswm · 23/05/2006 20:26

weird day. some points I ahve felt awful other times ok. What is happening? Is this the slippery slope?

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GIGWIG · 23/05/2006 20:43

hello again,

just hang in there.... don't focus too much on just this day or the last day, otherwise you'll depress yourself too much (I know I would)... take care of yourself. I sometimes get ups and downs for a reason I don't know, I know it can be hard to come out of them. Try to focus on the times you felt good.

naswm · 23/05/2006 21:15

I am gigwig - that is waht is upsrtting me :(

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blueteddy · 23/05/2006 21:22

Hi again, naswm.
I think it is natural to panic when you have suffered from depression in the past & then find yourself having a tough day/week/month, that the depression is returning - I know I do! The thing is - we all have bad days & times of extreme stress, it doesn't have to mean that you are slipping back.
I know how you feel though - I have often panic myself in the same way, but then I regain control of my life again.
Have yourself a drink on me tonight!

naswm · 23/05/2006 21:31

thaks bluteddy. I do know all that but Iam stil worred. Will have a drink fort you btw. You ok?

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blueteddy · 23/05/2006 21:36

Not so bad now that I have finished my second glass of wine! Kids been driving me insane today & have felt like maybe I am not coping as well emotionally as I should - but then kids do drive you round the twist at times don't they?!
Have had several of the panics you describe, recently, but am reassuring myself it is all just stress!
Have you had a bad day?

blueteddy · 23/05/2006 21:42

Watch the fruitcakes on big brother - that should cheer you up!!!

naswm · 23/05/2006 21:43

OMG I coldnt do Big Bro9he. Day ok. Nothing exciting. Need top find domehting tpo do topmorropwe tjougjh. Any ideas. Sorry typing a bit eratic. oops!

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blueteddy · 23/05/2006 22:03

Have you had a few drinks tonight, my dear?!!
Yes, tomorrow is another day. Has anything happened today to get you uptight?

katyrocks · 23/05/2006 22:56

hi naswm, how did your day go? hope you have been ok. lol at your typing!

naswm · 24/05/2006 10:38

Hi everyone. Thanks for talking to me last night. I am fine. Honestly I am. I think I am just a bit lonely at the moment, that's all. You know the same old stuff; 12 hours on my own with the kids during the day, then 3+ hours on my own in the evening before DH comes home (by which point I dont want to see him anyway). But I know I shouldn't complain. Others have it far worse. I'll give myself a big kick and hopefully everything will be alright.

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blueteddy · 24/05/2006 19:49

Glad you are okay, naswm. Some days do get you really down/stressed. I have had two of them this week! Hopefully it was just one of those days & not depression slipping back.
We are always around to talk if you are feeling a bit down in the dumps.

naswm · 24/05/2006 20:29

thanks Blueteddy. I am a bit down in the dumps. I;m sure that is all it is. I do get very lonely though.

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