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Geniunely need HELP/ADVICE PLEASE - NEED URGENT PTSD TRAUMA THERAPY (which is >>>£& pound;£) so swift advice on BEST WAY TO FLOG A ROLEX PLEASE?

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NeedSwiftHelpPLEASE Sun 28-Apr-13 19:39:41

Have name-changed but know is a poss some of you may recognise 'bits' of this; if you do, please don't out me under my normal user name.

Concise summary:

One of my DCs was attacked brutally nearly 6 years ago by then DH. He ended up in hospital for 9 weeks and I genuinely knew he might die. Had to come home from him to other DCs (younger and just shocked and bewildered at the vast upheavals in their lives, and who also need very hefty parenting), and 'whack a face on' for them. Was beyond head-fucking& traumatic in the extreme. Ditto the fact that my life had, obv, imploded in less than 24 hours in every single way (IE the standard pysch MH needs of somewhere to live; someone to love; something to do).

AM now divorced but financial hearing not until this Autumn (for variety of reasons). I stopped my (fab/high-earning/much loved) career to care for my then obviously very high-need DCs. Have seen them all from then to now successfully but has been THE hardest of journies. However, having to leave my career has - utterly HORRIFICALLY - left me WHOLLY financially dependent on vile & now slightly mad with major control issues 'D'XH. And until that hearing in Autumn, he and he alone decides what monthly transfer is appropriate. [Context - it is less than a third of what my own day rate used to be ]. And he does NOT want me to access the help I so despearatly need, as he is UTTERLY desperate for me to stay both ill and with a very 'little' life - IE, a total 180 from 'normal me'. Normal me I now know being something that he resented; was jealous of; and that he never wants to be allowed to have a life again.

17 months ago I was, pretty unsurprisingly, diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder which my health insurance does NOT cover. So waited on NHS but that's been laughable beyond laughable and no help forthcoming.

PTSD is very progressive and I have been pointed to a great Trauma Therapist (PTSD Trauma Therapy is unique against other therapies, i.e. CBT etc) in that it gets worse before it gets better as it involves going over what triggered the trauma and also EMDR. I waited for NHS, and then when given up on that after a year - in which all obviously worsened - I had to further wait as my only parent was dying/died (as you cannot embark on Trauma Therapy whilst have any other ongoing 'Traumatic' event occuring). But I don't now have time to play with.

I need to access that help ASAP now, but (obv...) vile twunt of an Ex - whose career remains intact along with his >£200k income - as it wasn't in the children's best interests to prosecute him, remains with-holding funds other than those to cover 'basics'.

My plan to urgently now fund trauma therapy (which is £100 per session) is to sell a Rolex he bought me, but have no clue where to start; how to maximise it's income; or to avoid being ripped off.


(Am terrified no-one will see this, so will also post in MH & Legal as DESP for quick pointers here as stakes are pretty high nowangrysadangry )

AntoinetteCosway Sun 28-Apr-13 19:58:17

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Are there any charities that would fund it for you in the short term? Sorry to answer your questions with a question. Hope this works as a bump to draw someone with more info's attention to your thread.

mrscumberbatch Sun 28-Apr-13 20:03:49

OP it sounds like you've been through he'll and I hope somebody can give you help with contacts for agencies that may be able to assist you.

I'm a vintage dealer, so know a bit about 2nd hand goods. If I were you- work out what model your rolex is. Some are more collectable than others and google for current prices etc.
If you take your watch into any store that deals rolex's they will usually be interested in buy-ins. This is because there is a good Market in 2nd hand rolex.
Get a few quotes, I hope it frees up some cash for you

coxspippin Tue 30-Apr-13 12:48:02

dear NSHP, £100 a session sounds a lot- perhaps you are in london or it's a specialist trauma clinic.. the BPS website has a directory of clinical psychologists- though many may say they can help you but go on to use a not too helpful generalist approach. does your health insurance not cover mental health? best wishes.

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