I feel broken. DS2 is tired but hates napping & just cries & cries when I try & get him to sleep. He's also pulling my hair which I'm getting irrationally angry about. My hair isn't long enough to tie back & even when I clip it he manages to yank it.
I just can't cope with the sound of his crying any more, I just want to run. If I tell DH how I feel he just dismisses it & tells me it will be ok.
Am getting a lot of support for PND but just need to vent & know I'm not the only one to feel like this.
I felt like this when my dd was young. In the end I had to take her out for naps in the sling as I couldnt face it (I had a toddler too). So in sling, go for a walk and she'd usually be asleep quite quickly.
Could you stick him in his pram and take him for a walk? Yes he might scream but he wont be able to grab at your hair, it will be outside so wont sound so loud? I know its horrible and your DH really shouldn't be dismissive. How old is your DS?
its so hard, this age, but it will pass - you know that its OK to put him in the cot and leave him to cry for ten minutes while you gather yoru thoughts. Are you managing to eat regularly? I find it difficult to cope if im hungry and with a demanding baby you often forget to feed yourself.
You say you are getting good support for PND, this is good, what support are you receiving? Do you have a local surestart in your area?
earplugs! and before anyone is shocked, I don't suggest you leave ds to cry it out, but the earplugs can take the edge off the anxiety the crying can induce in you. you can still hear him and cuddle him but its not so intense.
I had terrible pnd and found my dd crying brought an almost visceral reaction in me, I just wanted to run the other way because it made me feel so panicked. to some degree of course that's true of every mum but I think for some mums with pnd its an extreme reaction and I was one of those
Ok. I am not being flippant here but if he doesn't want to nap, then why try and make him? Put him in the pushchair, and take him for a walk or out in the car somewhere. If he's tired, he will sleep, and if not, <shrugs>. Is he hungry? Try him with a snack and a drink. Don't let him cry for ages, it won't benefit you or him.
I really understand with a first baby that you want to do everything by the book, with set nap times and set feeding times because I was the same. But I have 3 DCs now and with my third was much more relaxed and she was a much happier baby as a result.
If he's fighting them he might be ready to drop one.
It will probably save your sanity to try cry it out or one of those to get him to self settle.
Sympathies, I had PND and DS was the same but he was actually often crying because of allergies/reflux. We're only now really getting there with self settling, he's nearly 16m, he still needs me there but actually takes me to bed when he's tired.
Maybe you need to catch him before he's tired. Does he have a routine? Mine were napping at roughly 9am and 1pm (so I'd put them down just before then) at that age. If I missed the window they'd fight sleep.
Your post could have been written by me when DC were little! (2 and 4.5 now). It's really hard but as another poster says, best just leave them in cot for 10 mins and go for lie down next door than risk losing it with them (not that I'm suggesting youd ever hurt him) Be kind to yourself and try to talk to DH again when you're not in the heat of the moment. Are you on ADs? I took sertaline, it really helped with the rage. All the best x