NCd but a regular contributor. Something just hit me today. I've realised what the core of my problems but don't know how to get past it.
My life's been very complicated. My career never really happened and I spent my 20s never getting into a career and not feeling like I was doing a good job. Met my now -ex. One of the main reasons was not feeling valued in the relationship - my views and opinions never seemed to count and it was like I was treading on egg shells whenever I tried to express what I really thought.
I changed careers but a new Headteacher arrived and pushed me out. Since then I've been doing short term supply teaching. You're there for a few weeks and then off. You can't make an impact and never really get feedback. Again- it's a feeling of not being valued.
All I want is to be valued and to know I matter. A friend of mine told me about her appraisal today. She was valued in the team and made good contributions. That's all I want - to have someone say that to me. I'm finding it really hard to get a job and I don't feel important to anyone. Except to DS.
This feeling has been going on for ages and I can't shake it. I'd love to know someone cared about me and valued me in a relationship and would love to have a job where I actually know someone looks at me and values me. It worries me how easily I can get to these feelings and I'm really scared I'm going to do something. I sometimes visualise cutting my wrists but it's the thought of DS that stops me. I've never done that in real life but it's a mental picture I paint.
I don't know what's going on with me. I know if I got a job, that would help a lot but it's just wanting to be valued. I worry about the future - especially financially. It's just so hard to get a job and I also have no confidence in myself if I could do full time teaching again. I've had interviews but not got anything
I think I've just fucked up my life, no one cares about me and sometimes I can't see the point. But I manage to get through another day. I just hate where my life is but I can't see a real future. Just living day to day.
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I just want to be valued
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novalue · 18/04/2013 22:06
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