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Are toxic people born or made?

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ReallyTired Wed 17-Apr-13 09:51:29

My mother phoned me up to tell me what a toxic person I am. I disagree with her. I am trying to cut contact with her.

If she is right and I am toxic then was I born toxic (ie. genetic) or is it her vile parenting? Surely if I am half as toxic as she makes out then she would want to break contact with me.

dothraki Wed 17-Apr-13 15:18:01

Your mum sounds horrible.
Lets say she is right - then if it was genetic - its her fault
If its nuture - its her fault.

Do you want contact with her ? Is she always horrible, is she controlling ?
There is plenty of advise on here about toxic parents. Try Stately Homes, or some of the narcissist threads.

Crawling Wed 17-Apr-13 17:35:45

Im sure your not toxic but id say its their upbringing.

MagicBaguette Wed 17-Apr-13 17:39:59

Think it's much more likely that she is toxic.

Probably a mixture of genetics and her upbringing.

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