I do the same cycle over and over, I don't know how long it has been going on for, over 10yrs at least so all of my adult life.
I rack my brains thinking of what I want to achieve in my life next, then I make lists/ plans, i research, I over think and my catch phrase is "it will be better when or I'll be happier when........
I then go hell for leather to achieve what I have set out to do/ get (examples of this were having dd2, moving house, owning a bigger car to expand my business, getting married, loosing weight) some people would say I am driven/ ambitious and that's a good thing I think BUT I am obsessive and can't switch off and torture myself until I get what I want.
The problem is even when I get what I want I hardly enjoy it for 5 mins before the cycle starts all over again.
I'm taking sertraline (for OCD and PMT/ anxiety) and having counselling to try and help myself but I wondered if there is anyone out there who understands why I am like this and what else I can do to try and be content with my life.
Not CBT, funny you should ask about painting monkey, my (new obsessional dream) is to become a muralist/ events florist as I am very creative but with life the way it currently is I don't have as much time as I would like to run with building it up into a profitable business.......
Not an expert here, but can you try bring 'present' if you feel you're racing away, anchor yourself on what's going on where you currently are. I sometimes find myself spinning mentally and will stop and do one thing. One task, one phone call, 5 mins of sudoku. From what you say, the obsessiveness sounds almost 'existential' and on top of the techniques to anchor yourself you could investigate a 'meaning for life'. Faith? 7 habits of highly effective people (sounds like a book about paperwork!) addresses what you're talking about- how you can't be happy if you're investing all your energies in one or the wrong place.
Would you be able to do a trial where you avoid watching, listening to or reading as many adverts as possible?
If you prerecord all the tv you watch and skip through the adbreaks and try to ditch magazines for a month you might have a bit more headspace to find what really is important to you.
The basic function of adverts are to make you dissatisfied with your lot so you feel the need to spend money on new products. Stepping away from the continuous drip drip drip of these messages which are designed to undermine your satisfaction with everything might give you a better insight into what is really important to you.
I don't tend to watch tv very much but if I do I always skip adverts but I do watch things like the apprentice, cooking/ baking type shows, grand designs, alex polizzi etc
I will try the bringing myself back to the present if I can. I won't do faith, I practically lived at church for the first 13yrs of my life and it just isn't my cup of tea. I do think there is something in karma/ positive thinking and visualisation etc though.
the 7 habits of effective people sounds good though, where do I get that?
DBT is dialectical behavioural therapy. It works very well for people with ocd. It's normally done as group threapy and you sort of challenge each other's way of thinking/mind set. Sort of seeing things from different perspectives. Good luck with it all and I hope it helps