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Worth seeking help?

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silverchair Wed 06-Feb-13 18:17:20

Just looking for some advice really. I'm 6 months pregnant and have had a string of bad luck in the last two years - multiple miscarriages, my mother having a severe stroke, threatened job loss, appallingly noisy neighbours that disturb my sleep and not being able to sell our property to move somewhere else. I feel like I don't have any strength left and am in constant fits of anger and tears. I do feel like I'm in a depressed mood, but then I think - who wouldn't be in this situation? Therefore I'm not sure if it's worth seeking any professional help. Any ideas?

Tubegirl Wed 06-Feb-13 22:16:10

Get some help. Definitely. Yes you have had an appallingly bad time and so of course you feel depressed, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't get help. There are medications you can take whilst pregnant, but sounds to me that counselling would be more effective for you anyway. I've tried both and for me the counselling was amazing. It depends how good your counsellor is as I had one I couldn't relax with. Please don't suffer alone. Depression is very isolating no matter what the cause. You can feel better and I really hope you get some help.

notfeelinghappy Thu 07-Feb-13 10:26:58

hello silverchair, you sounds a bit like me. I haven't had miscarriages and am so sorry to hear that you have had. But I've had lots of other very similar things to youthat have happened and having been a pretty strong kinda girl most of my life I'm crumbling lately (hence my crying every day thread.) I think you need to treat yourself really really well, and I think getting some counselling could be good. By buying yourself some "you" time you'll be able to get a lot of that emotion off your chest. I would get cracking right away as your time won't be your own once the baby comes and you want to be feeling a bit better to enjoy the good bits of that and cope with the challenges. Do you have children already? Speak to your GP but if you can afford a bit of private counselling, or even going to see a homeopath which I did once. It helped - I don't believe in it now but i think just going and chatting in a nice room to a nice person really really helped take the strain. A counsellor could help you assess if you need something more like meds but I wouldn't rush _ I think you need a professional shoulder to cry on and help get your mojo back - I'm sure you will.
Good luck.

silverchair Sat 09-Feb-13 14:21:26

Thanks very much, both of you, for your very kind replies. I think you've encouraged me to take the next step and to seek some counselling. I was at the GP yesterday for something else and tried to work up the courage to discuss these issues but it was such a matter of fact, rushed appointment that I never got the chance. However, my midwife is a bit more approachable so I'll try that route. I'd love to go private but the prices seem a bit outwith our means, especially as one of our worries is money! Thanks again for the support, I really appreciate it.

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