Hello, not sure if this is correct place but I would really like some advice.
Dd is 19, she has had an awful time over the past 18 months. Her best friend was killed in a car accident and she has obviously been hugely affected by her death. They were so very very close and she has been really struggling. (As have we all, we knew her very well, sharing holidays/sleepovers ect, I was also very close to her mum, so initially I was trying to support her too)
My dd has tried so hard to "get through this". She carried on with sixth form, sitting her A levels, passing them and getting into uni. This took a huge amount of effort form her, but she did it, her teachers were hugley supportive. She is now on a gap year and seems very lost.
She had planned to travel the world with her friend, all those plans have gone, she feels sad that her gap year is just going to be working in shops. But she doesn't have the confidence to do any travelling, so she just gets angry and upset.
She has had 3 jobs so far- but she has walked out on one and is about to do the same in the one she's in now. She says she feels trapped and anxious. She has stomach pains and feels sick. She hates talking to people and just wants to be at home, where she feels safe.
Half of me thinks "she can't just leave again, she'll never get another job and its unhealthy to be at home all the time" ( DH and I both work from home, so we would be in with her). The other half of me thinks "it's making her ill, let her leave"
She misses her friend so much she says it hurts her. She has comfort eaten a lot, she's not over weight but says she hates the way she looks. She also says she worries that everyone is getting fed up with her as she is down all the time. We reassure her that we love her and will help her through this. Her boyfriend and friends are also very supportive of her.
Just a few points- she was not like this before her friend died, she was very confident and mixed well with others. She has a huge no of friends but have noticed she now only socialises with a handful of them.
She has been to the drs and has been having counselling. She stopped before Xmas, but has agreed to start going again next week.
I'm just frightened, I hate to see her so unhappy, I don't know how it help her
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BorrowedABiscuit · 25/01/2013 08:28
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