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feeling unloved and depressed

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cpbp Tue 25-Dec-12 09:52:16

Apologies for the whingefest.

Wishing only the best for all of us with mh issues. Hope next year will be better and brighter for us all. And merry christmas one and all.

Am on ads since last month. Had a breakdown caused in part by the fact that I worked day and night for my family.

Until now I have always loved xmas. I like to spoil my nearest and dearest. I thought that given what has been a very tough year in which I continued to support my family single handedly that DH might make an effort for me this xmas. I really spoiled him and our DS. Sadly, he did not reciprocate and there was nothing special or romantic at all in the couple of things he gave me. Money is not an issue. Am I wrong to want dh to spoil me?

This has made me feel so down I have gone back to bed in tears. Feel so taken for granted and unloved. Feel v down. Would love a romantic present and to be treated like a woman. Feeling v angry.

Sorry: just v v upset that DH does not love me enough to make an effort. He doesn't work btw. I have always said that whatever I earn is joint money. He knows I would be totally cool with him spending whatever he wants from our joint monies.

Sorry again for whingeing but I needed to get it off my chest. He has ruined Xmas and made me feel like everything I do is taken for granted.

Take care.


Salbertina Tue 25-Dec-12 10:00:48

Merry christmas, sorry to hear you feel down sad

Can you talk to dh, properly- explain how u feel, show him your post? It nay just be thoughtless rather than unloving...

TheSilveryTinsellyPussycat Tue 25-Dec-12 10:09:05

I know the feeling, mine also didn't work, or not very much. I am now spending my first Christmas after divorce all alone and happy. (Kids are grown) My long term depression lifted as soon as I filed divorce petition.

I am hoping yours is not like mine, and you can work it out.

AndMiffyWentToSleep Tue 25-Dec-12 10:19:17

Oh you poor thing.

I am wondering if your DH just thinks about christmas differently to you (and me)?

I told my DP that christmas presents are an expression of love but he just scoffed. All bought last minute, no real thought or effort put into them and he's only getting around to wrapping them now!

Maybe that's how your DH views it too - as nothing that important and not related in any way to love (obviously the fact that it is important to you should make it important to him, but...)

cpbp Tue 25-Dec-12 10:30:29

Thanks so much for the replies.

I am heartbroken.


AndMiffyWentToSleep Tue 25-Dec-12 10:33:52

Does he know how you feel?

cpbp Tue 25-Dec-12 10:47:18

Yes he does. He went to church on his own, came back and haven't seen him since. I am so gutted and am still crying as I can't believe I am so little thought of.

It really hurts me to my core.

AndMiffyWentToSleep Tue 25-Dec-12 11:21:30

Oh jeez. There's a whole thread in chat about crap presents, but it may not make you feel any better.
I'll be thinking of you but will probably disappear as my baby'll wake up soon, ending my MN time for now.
Maybe it is time to start prioritising yourself bit more - especially as nobody else seems to be. Treat yourself and be kind to yourself.

HollaAtMeSanta Tue 25-Dec-12 12:42:29

How old are your children? It's a bit unfair on them to spend Christmas day crying in bed because you don't like your presents. I know it's hard when you're depressed, but do try to hold it together. Maybe get out of the house for a walk while it's still light?

HollaAtMeSanta Tue 25-Dec-12 12:43:33

Ooh, and/or buy yourself something lovely online - lots of sales starting today and you deserve it!

HollaAtMeSanta Thu 27-Dec-12 20:53:56

How are you feeling now cpbp?

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