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I want to hit my baby

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PeggyCarter Fri 16-Nov-12 18:54:47

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Namechangeforapropertythread Fri 16-Nov-12 19:18:18

Can your husband take both children out for a walk tomorrow morning so you can have alie in and get some sleep?

Karoleann Fri 16-Nov-12 19:19:46

He'll be fine. Give him calpol, sunfflebabe on his chest and put him in his cot. He will go to sleep eventually. He will go waaaaahhhhhh. But you need to ignore him.
You will want to go up.......but ignore him, its only a cold.
Have a glass of wine and a sinutab and sit and watch TV and then have a very early night.
When you have all had a good sleep tomorrow everything will feel so much better,
You are not a bad mother - children are very irritating and wonderful all at the same time.

5madthings Fri 16-Nov-12 19:21:42

what tantrums said, speak to your dh and your gp, its good you are posting here and acknowleding this, its not you its the pnd, you KNOW you would never do this, but sometimes we can think scary things. make sure you get a break as soon as dh gets in, have a cup of a tea, a bath etc. you need to look after yourself, you will get better, reach out for help just like you have done on here xxx

BillyBollyBandy Fri 16-Nov-12 19:23:51

You can feel like this when meds are working. It doesn't have to be a mental health issue

It is an exhaustion issue, that is testing your mental health. That is a different thing.

PeggyCarter Fri 16-Nov-12 19:25:46

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BeerTricksPott3r Fri 16-Nov-12 19:27:54

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TantrumsAndBalloons Fri 16-Nov-12 19:27:55

Go to sleep puddle

Even if it's just for a few hours.

Iceaddict Fri 16-Nov-12 19:29:34

Agree with others. Just wanted to say I get you. I've felt like you do. I hope you feel better soon, and you will be better it just doesn't feel like it now

ImNotCute Fri 16-Nov-12 19:31:07

Glad you're getting a break now. I have 2 young dcs and am on sertraline too. My gp increased my dose a couple of months ago and it has definitely helped. Maybe you need higher dose too? And have you had any other treatment, i found a short course of cbt helpful.

Take care of yourself, you'll get through it. Even without depression it can be tough sometimes with reduced sleep.

MyLastDuchess Fri 16-Nov-12 19:36:31

I am lucky that I didn't have PND but I wanted to remind you that sleep deprivation is used as a form of torture for a reason. I spent a week in hospital when my DS was born and what with one thing and another I barely got a wink of sleep. I was hallucinating at the end of it. Lack of sleep can cause all sorts of problems, it doesn't mean the meds aren't working.

Get as much sleep as you can and if your DH can do anything at all to let you sleep tomorrow then please, ask him to do it. It sounds like you need it desperately, you poor thing.

PeggyCarter Fri 16-Nov-12 19:39:08

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ImNotCute Fri 16-Nov-12 19:42:19

No need to feel foolish, it is overwhelming sometimes. Hope you have an ok night and dh can give you a break over the weekend.

BeerTricksPott3r Fri 16-Nov-12 19:43:28

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MrsWolowitz Fri 16-Nov-12 19:46:24

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MimsyBorogroves Fri 16-Nov-12 19:51:54

I've been there.

You need a break. Tomorrow. You're having a little one now, but get DH to take them both for a walk, or to tesco, or anything. Have a hot bath, some chocolate, read or watch some crap on TV. Doze if you can. Just a couple of hours to yourself, at home, without being mummy might be enough to help you through to an improved place.

It sounds very like intrusive thoughts, as MrsW said. They're fucking horrible things. Have a chat with your GP.


AnAirOfHopeForSnow Fri 16-Nov-12 19:54:25


I wanted to throw my 11 day old baby at the wall at 2am in the morning because he wouldnt sleep and just cried all the time which made me feel guilty and crap.

I did Not hurt my baby.

My dh took him downstairs and put him to sleep in his carry cot and sleeped on the sofa with the carrycot on the floor next to him for 6 weeks so i could get some sleep.

It took me 18 months to have a full breakdown and get help sad

Im still on 150mg of sertaline.

But it gets better.

PeggyCarter Fri 16-Nov-12 20:05:42

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Charleebird Fri 16-Nov-12 20:06:43

I had PND so bad i wanted to hurt my son every waking moment. I hated him. I felt like he had ruined my life. I wanted to punch him or throw him on the floor. I would never ever do that, but the thoughts were there. I am now fully recovered. Hes 4 years old and i look back and im shocked. But it was the depression talking. Please see your gp. X

AnAirOfHopeForSnow Fri 16-Nov-12 20:12:51

Also I had counciling for 6 weeks, i did a parenting class, a first aid class, cooking lessons and food hygine course thru sure start centre to increase my confidence in being a parent to my son. Who will be 4 in Feb.

My dd will be 1 in a few weeks. I dont have PND with her and it is soooo different. I can now see what was depression and what was not.

ChippingInLovesAutumn Fri 16-Nov-12 20:13:51

Big hugs lovely x From what I can gather from the many posters on here the Drs normally put people on quite low doses to start with and keep increasing them until the dose is right, so hopefully that will help some.

The other thing that someone else said is that it's not entirely PND but severe sleep deprivation sad You need more sleep. You need to do whatever it takes to get that. You have BF DS for a good while - maybe it's time to consider mixed feeding so that DH can do nights & whilst co-sleeping is 'nice' it's not the right answer for everyone - maybe you could look at having DS in a cot in your room, you might all sleep better. You can't carry on like this.

PeggyCarter Fri 16-Nov-12 20:40:43

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ArthurandGeorge Fri 16-Nov-12 20:44:54

With DS I'm not sure that I had undiagnosed but I do know that I had horrendous sleep deprivation that made me truly struggle to function. I wish I had tried to address this earlier on.

EwanHoozami Fri 16-Nov-12 20:46:15

Oh love - you've been hugely brave admitting this to yourself and writing your feelings down.

LunaticFringe Fri 16-Nov-12 20:52:25

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