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I think I need help with anxiety

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CosmicCelia Mon 12-Nov-12 12:50:05

I've name changed for this, just in case anyone has recognised me in RL. Also, apologies if this isn't the right place to post this - I know there are people here who need more MH help than me.

I think I need some help with my anxiety, but I don't know where to start. I've always been a worrier but these days I feel like I have a permanent ball of knots and worry in my stomach. Sometimes it's little things - like what if we get a sickness bug, sometimes it's stuff to do with my work, which I don't like much at the moment. Sometimes it's Christmas and sometimes it's just the sheer volume of things to do.

I guess some of things are worth worrying about and some aren't - but sometimes I think none of them are worth the constant worrying about them all. I don't know - maybe it's all just part of being a 'busy mum' (maybe I should just be on a supermarket ad!!) but I feel like it's all taking over a bit. DH does talk to me about stuff and is very helpful with practical things, but I think he gets a bit frustrated when I worry about the same things all the time.

Is there a book anyone could recommend, maybe? Something just to help me be more rational?

CosmicCelia Mon 12-Nov-12 18:08:45

Just bumping in case anyone at all has any advice or tips. Please.

44SoStartingOver Mon 12-Nov-12 18:11:25

Fantastic book
Dr Steve Peters
Mind Management

the author is v qualified (not crystals will cure you nonsense) but useful techniques and very easily accessible explanations. V untechnical, but I read it and said aha iykwim

CosmicCelia Mon 12-Nov-12 18:23:27

Fantastic, thank you. That's just the sort of thing I was after. Is it called 'The Chimp Paradox: The Mind Management Programme'?

Thank you for replying. It's been a bad day, so this is a little ray of hope!

CosmicCelia Mon 12-Nov-12 18:26:01

Have just read a few reviews on Amazon - is it aimed at sports people?


44SoStartingOver Mon 12-Nov-12 18:26:50

Thats the one - I have been reading it almost open mouthed recognising it and putting parts of it into practice on the spot.

last night I woke up at 3am worrying about a letter from the tax office. I recognised my chimp brain was fretting but not helping. Switched off then tackled it this morning. All sorted. Makes me feel more in control.

All sorts of very usable techniques. I love it

44SoStartingOver Mon 12-Nov-12 18:27:48

He works with a lot of sports people (Team GB) but certainly not fixated on sport. Links with physical activity and exercise but not a particular focus imo

CosmicCelia Mon 12-Nov-12 19:19:23

Great, thank you. This sounds very promising.

ClareMarriott Mon 12-Nov-12 21:45:46

Before you had been given the brilliant advice by 44so, I was thinking about the things you have mentioned you might worry about. ( 1 ) If you get a sickness bug, ok you throw up, you get better ( 2 ) Work is only work, it does'nt define you as the whole person you are ( 3 ) Christmas comes round every year - you can't escape it and ( 4 ) and the volume of things to do - join the rest of humanity.!!
Remember you are not alone in thinking as you do but sometimes it's just a case of doing a small thing well ( and with good intentions ) that gives you a great sense of accomplishment . I hope everything goes well for you

CosmicCelia Mon 12-Nov-12 22:45:32

Thank you. I know that I need a bit of perspective, really. Everyone has to deal with these things - many people, a lot worse. You're completely right!! I just need to find that small thing to do well!

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