How do you deal with stress? I feel quite stressed all the time. I get a tight feeling in my chest when I think about the next thing on the agenda, and an overwhelming desire to go home, shut the door and curtains and hibernate. I am a single mum with a full time job, the DCs are 11 and 8.
My average day goes like this: up at 6am, out of the house with the DCs by 7.30am, at work by 9am, home 7.15pm, kids to bed by 8.45pm, preparations for next day (lunches, uniforms etc) done by 9.30pm, more work (a couple of nights a week) / organise life (online Tesco shopping, birthday/Christmas present planning, general home admin) till 11.30pm, fall into bed exhaused. Wake up at 6am next day feeling as though only 5 minutes have passed since I went to bed.
I have a busy and demanding job in which lots of people all want things done NOW. I enjoy my job but I never seem to get to the point where I've got everything I need to done and feel in control. However, I am well organised at work and prioritise etc. I rarely feel stressed at work; it's all the things I have to do outside of work that make me feel stressed.
Daily issues that need my attention (outside work) are: DS being socially excluded at school (in regular contact with school about this, they're not very helpful) and needing a lot of reassurance; exH constantly complaining about weekend contact (he thinks he doesn't have enough even though he has almost every weekend); exH not doing enough/anything to help with 11+ prep and insisting that DS is a genius and will sail through (he isn't and he needs to do the work); redecorating/decluttering house to put on market so we can move closer to my work; fretting about how to find a reliable au pair for childcare once we move house.
I just feel constantly worried about the next thing I need to deal with. They all churn around in my mind all the time. I have no time to exercise, hardly any quality time with my precious DCs, and most of my personal relationships (with exH, his wife, my family) feel fraught. I just never have time for anything beyond the essentials. It feels relentless. I am aware that nothing in my life is particularly extraordinary and lots of women have similar lives. So, busy MNers, how do you "decompress"?
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Stress - and how to deal with it
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Ginda · 23/10/2012 17:00
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