finished. bumpy start last November with the wrong counsellor - switched in March to a lovely lovely lady who helped me no end.
today was my last session.
there is a difference in me. whatever happens now, whether i stay in the job, whether i dont, i feel it was worth it.
i think its driven home the absolute importance of having the right counsellor. i had no idea how important that was. i was going to give up, the first counsellor was a tit. (made stupid references to my son having SN and asked if i had mentioned it to get a "poor me" response......like i said - he was a tit.)
that said, my new counsellor said i did come in as a victim - thats probably true since my mother had tried to get in touch and had left me reeling, along with the problems i had with renewed contact with my brother at that time, the difficulties i was having with DS, the job, the pressures were intolerable.
so, since march, ive done rewind therapy, which took away the emotion from the past, meaning i had the freedom then to look much more objectively.
CBT which i have found really hard, but am learning.
hypnotherapy for relaxation.
i took my counsellor a big bunch of flowers today. i dont think i realised how much work i had to do, or how numb i had become, never daring to lift the lid on feelings i had no idea what to do with.
but i feel like im less of a people pleaser. i feel like i am going to do my thing and trust my self much much more, because my instincts are always right. they are. they are good. i seek reassurance too much.
and i am who i am. at 40 thats not going to change, and its ok. i am a care giver, and thats not a bad thing. not even in the job im in. there is a different way of doing things and thats not necessarily wrong.
so
ive got to try to get comfortable with myself now and not slip backwards. Feels odd to have finished counselling. i could have probably gone on for a long time, but i had limited sessions and a really good counsellor in the end who saw that, and got straight to the crux of the problem.
so now i suppose its up to me.
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i finished my counselling today
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ThatVikRinA22 · 04/10/2012 21:18
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