re my thread disappeared.... my DS is in a medium secure unit aged 15

[wannabestressfree]

My thread has disappeared!!!!
Anyway I came to update.
I have had lots of contact from the hospital today and things seem to be moving toward him coming home from Birmingham to a more local unit. I suggested one in Orpington but my solicitor has sent the paperwork for it and it doesn't do well in its reports. They would like him to attend one in Ealing which is the sister unit of the he is at now........

Suddenly I am being deluged by phone calls so Bindmans are doing there job.......

I am saddened he is still deemed as needing a forensic unit and they are not willing to downgrade him but if he is nearer I will be much happier. I think realistically he stands to spend the rest of his childhood in a psychiatric hospital.

I wonder where my thread has gone.......
Was I full?

[droves]

That's good news , It will be much easier for you to spend time with him if he's nearer home .

[wannabestressfree]

Absolutely, am going up there friday and saturday as there are some family events. Am planning to take the boys there in a couple of weeks for a couple of days too as they haven't seen him for ages..... youngest DS hasn't seen him for nearly five months.........

[marriednotdead]

Delurking to hopefully link you back to your thread which I have been watching for months
original thread

[IamtheZombie]

It's here, wannabestressfree:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1310400-advice-needed-desperately-regarding-social-services?msgid=32773668

[wannabestressfree]

I am an idiot............

[Selks]

Hi Wannabe, that sounds like positive progress indeed. Glad to hear it.

Let us know whether you want to carry on with this thread now, or resume the old one (it's on 872 posts).

[annalovesmrbates]

Just bumped the old thread for you.

[annalovesmrbates]

Just bumped the old thread for you.

[Selks]

Add your old thread to your 'watch' list...it can drop off 'threads I'm on'

[wannabestressfree]

I will carry on with this new shiny one :}

[Selks]

Good idea; the old one would fill up soon anyway.

[Alameda]

Is it run by a company named after a baby bird? Just wondering because my daughter moved from a medium secure unit (not Birmingham) to Ealing - young women only at her

[Alameda]

why does it do that! Just wanted to say it was so much better than the secure unit, obviously easier to visit etc - good luck

[Alameda]

no obviously a boy won't go there, is definitely for girls and young women - anyway hope it is nice and that it helps

[aesopslabials]

i was a lurker then and remember your thread. was horrified for you and your son. very glad that he will be closer to you

[wannabestressfree]

I know little about it to be honest. It was suggested to me by the hospital as its the sister unit of the Ardenleigh. I have asked for more information but I think the mental health commissioners are likely to suggest it....

I just think if they are convinced he will spend the next 2 to 5 years in hospital he should be allowed a 'family' life. To see us all and be involved in whatever capacity.........

I am still not convinced he needs a forensic environment though but I am not an expert......

[wannabestressfree]

He is most upset that the HEATING is still on in his ward.........
And my request to buy a fan was turned down...........

Its madness.....

[wannabestressfree]

Oh Ala have u got a waffy phone ;]
I am going to complain again friday. Its taken them months to get him to sleep on a bed instead of his prefered floor. Much longer and he will be returning to the floor again........

[ThePieWhoLovedMe]

Wanna I have been following this thread since your first post and just wanted to say what an incredible strong and courageous women you are (as are many of the other posters) ...your son is lucky to have you.
I was goggling some of the places your son has been in today (I am in the 'field') out of interest and came across This which I guess you will already know about (not even sure it is the right place!!)

[wannabestressfree]

Oh I know its horrifying..........
The unit are recommending The Wells in Ealing for him to go to. I have just come home from a family event and double visit. Out of a 20 bed unit 3 sets of parents attended. Its so sad.........
He continues to make progress and is responding well to treatment but they have agreed he needs another minimum 18 months treatment. The unit in lots of way in Birmingham is fantastic but he needs to be closer to home so if and when he is ready to go on leave and come home he can. He is still deemed a danger to himself and others though and they think he can 'contain' himself due to the fact he is in a medium secure unit.
It so nice to see him though. He really cuddled me today :}

[ImperialBlether]

Wannabe, I remember your old thread but I can't remember what it was that was wrong with your son. Were they able to diagnose him? It must be lovely for you to see him there and know he's safe, and it must be a relief in your family that you're not having to deal with his behaviour at home.

How often do you get to see him?

[wannabestressfree]

I see him once a week for an hour - hour and a half and speak to him for 10/15 minutes a day. I have been at the hospital the last two days and am taking his brothers to see him the second week of August for two days.
He is still 'mid- diagnosis' but its likely to be schizoprehenia/conduct disorder. He also has aspergers.
I miss him and its left such a huge hole but the relief comes from knowing he is safe and can't harm himself or others.

[ImperialBlether]

It must be really difficult for you. No matter what happens with our children we love them so much. I hope he finds peace and you, too.