My db is 54 and has always been a difficult person to get along with. He has never married but has had loads of relationships, the longest being around 3 years. He has anger problems, smokes dope regularly, has had many periods of depression, is very emotional, verbally 'picky' about anything I say (will correct my grammar, take things literally), finds it difficult to accept other peoples opinions, and can be very impulsive in terms of behaviour. He talks in an over loud voice and cannot see that this is the case. He is a reckless driver in my opinion. If someone cuts him up, he goes ballistic. He does this disgusting 'clearing his throat' thing regardless of who's company he is in and is very critical of what he considers my materialistic way of life. He lives in a wooden cabin with a compost loo and is rather 'hippy' like still. No offence to hippies, just trying to present a picture of him. He's quite happy to avail of facilities in my house when he stays here however but is very clumsy and often ends up breaking at least something every time he stays. He is very very intelligent and could have done anything career wise with his life. However, he has spent the majority of his life on benefits with intermittent jobs. He has threatened suicide in the past and has threatened to one day kill his ex (mother of his daughter) as she has been very difficult re:access. Empty threats I think. He threw a glass of wine over my dh last time he was here as dh had had enough of him being critical and told him so! He can get very involved in things - has spent whole night playing Internet chess before. He over reacts to things too. He hates dogs (didnt used to though as we has a family dog) and when I got a dog he screamed at me to get the dog away from him and jumped on a table. The dog just hides from him - she knows there is something weird about him! He seems to have friends - I think he thinks they are closer friends than they actually are though. He is into playing music and often goes to music sessions in pubs to play and socialise.
He also drinks a lot of alcohol and can get more confrontational when he drinks. He just always seems so angry all the time and moans constantly about things. Very anti authority too and loves to 'get one over anyone in authority' - deliberately carried knife hidden in hand luggage on plane to see if they would find it. Delighted when they didn't.
I was thinking either borderline personality disorder or aspergers syndrome. Any ideas anyone? I have just come to the stage where I feel I have to discuss his behaviour with him as I just can't face having him to stay anymore.
Any help much appreciated.
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What is wrong with my brother? (sorry quite long)
Zakinthos · 14/07/2012 20:45
Oops! ...from others. He comes to you because you are his sister and won't give up on him. I have a brother just like yours but he often does get medical support.
I would never turn my back on him but I seem to be the only person who confronts his behaviour and that has sometimes been the thing that has then made him seek professional help. He then blames me afterwards about it. 
One of the reasons it has been hard for him to seek help is that he still thinks having mental health problems is a weakness, it is something he can't accept as a health issue.
I would say he has narcissistic personality disorder developed as a coping mechanism for autism when he was younger.
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