My partner of 7 years has problems with his moods which affect me and our daughter (tho her less than me it seems). This is combined with compulsive (as I see it) computer gaming and overconsumption (binging) of alcohol.
Having done some reading around his moods and behaviour i wonder if he has cyclothymia (mild version of bipolar). He never does really risky/illegal things but he is impulsive and has done some physically dangerous things in the past.
He jokes sometimes that I'm imagining that he's got a problem and that he's happy how he is, and i wonder sometimes whether he's right and I WANT him to be ill so i'm justified in being unhappy with him and wanting things to change. But I'm pretty convinced he has some kind of cyclical / episodic changes in mood that are on the illness side of the spectrum, though clearly not as serious as some. He just seems to lose perspective and forget how he's been and that he could go there again.
After the most recent time of drinking too much and also feeling quite down he agreed to go to the doctors, the doctor has referred him on and he now, a couple of months later, has an appointment for a psychiatric assessment. His response was that he doesn't need to go 'cos he feels fine now. The questions on the questionnaire they ask him all relate to the last week or two - and he's been pretty good over this period. I'm concerned they won't pick up anything as he's in a good place right now, or even that they might put him on antidepressants which could make him worse if he is 'cyclothymic'.
So in a nutshell I would like to be able to feed my perspective, not judgementally or in a kind of 'look what i have to live with' way but just as someone who knows him so well and thinks he could be much happier, into the assessment process. Is that possible and can/should it be done without him knowing? I'd rather not hide it from him but I'm worried he'll say no if I offer.
Any suggestions or would I be wasting my time?
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can i help my partner get an accurate diagnosis?
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newfashionedmum · 03/04/2012 18:04
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