Hi this is the first time I have posted on this topic so bear with me...
I have massive problems in controlling my anger and need to find help, but dont know where to start.
I really believe that there is something inherentley wrong with me. Ever since being a very young child I have had raging tempers which easily become uncontrollable.
I feel generally angry. Even though I have a good life and on paper have little to complain about, all I do is moan. I feel angry about things that are completely beyond my control (current government issues for eg). I need control and having 2 preschool dc's this is hard to maintain. I feel unheathily anxious when the house is unclean (not messy, I can deal with that, but when the stairs have dust on them or the bathroom needs doing) to the point that I am awful to live with - shouty, cross, aggressive.
I take all this out on my DP and a m ashamed to say that I have punched him. I will make no excuses for that. He doesnt always react in a way that might go to diffuse a situation, but he shouldn't have to - I dont want to make any excuse for what is physical abuse.
I also feel like I am emotionally abusive in some way - I find it incredibly hard if DP does not agree with me - I take it personally and I think I use my emotions to manipulate his state of mind. I constantly undermine him but then use this against him when he tells me he cannot do what I want (because he doesnt feel he can, because i've reinforced that he can;t, if that makes any sense).
In my other "life" to people who I am good friends with but who have never lived with me I am kind, warm, sociable, wise, encouraging, confident and, most importantly, well-balanced.
I have lost it with DP too many times in front of my DCs... and it seems no matter how much II know that it is damaging there are times that I cannot control it and I end up crying and shouting in front of them. I love them so so much I cannot bear that I am damaging them so much.
I find being at home difficult, but at the same time I can see no room in my life for any kind of study/work. I feel constantly so frustrated at the things I cant do through lack of money/time.
Is there something I can take to help these feelings? I tried some counselling last year but it didnt really work out. I would be open to trying it again but for now I just want to move away from these negative feelings.
If you are still reading thank you.
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Medication for anger issues?
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Chunkamatic · 21/03/2012 23:43
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