Last night for an hour I sat in my car figuring out what was the best thing I could do. The options I was giving myself were a) drive the car off a cliff, b) drive as far away as possible and 'disappear'. I was beside myself thinking these were the best options to follow to allow my dh and beautiful, precious dc to be happy. Without me.
It was very scary. I do believe if somehow I hadn't found the 'courage' to go home I would have done something extreme :( the thought of going home was just so overwhelming and fearful. I somehow drove home thinking the only way forward is for dh and I to separate.
I got home and saw the dc's, kissed them, wished them good night etc and went downstairs to feed the baby (12m old). Dh was fine with me, so I thought I'll feed baby and put her to bed first, then tell him we were separating.
To separate is the only way forward I can see. I'm so mean to my dh, and he really is a Dh. I have such awful mood swings towards him a lot the time he can't do anything right, I have a go about everything. I shout, bawl, criticize. God I can't stop it. I don't know how/why I've changed. I love him so much. He loves me. I don't deserve him in any way. I used to be nice, calm, laid back. I'm not now.
Dh told me last night it was when I was pg with dc1, I changed then, I became aggressive, snappy, awful really. Why? How can I fix it? Maybe I should do the right thing and leave them all. God I never thought I would be capable of thinking those things. My dc are my life.
Dh won't leave me. Then everything was 'normal' again? I went to bed and we were normal today, with me snapping at him every now and again.
Just before I stormed out of the house and drove around for an hour we had a been sitting eating dinner. Dh had told me that our telephone conversation earlier that day had been heard by his work colleagues, his phone wasn't working so he'd had to use speaker. I had been ranting on about something. It was like I'd been kicked in the stomach, he threw away all the trust I had in him. I stood up, walked out and drove off.
This year has been a hard year for me. I've been very sad, confused for a lot of it. I'm seeing a psychologist, but only every few wks. I was in a bad place at the beginning of jan, but then I was happier/happy even, now it's bad again. We have all been a bit poorly this week too.
I just feel so trapped by my meanness. It's all so sad. I desperately want to be happy. I want dh to be happy with me. Most of all I want to dc to be happy.
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Please help me to be happy again :(
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itsconfusing · 25/02/2012 22:22
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