This has a bit of a long history so please bear with me. "X" is a friend of DH's who goes back more than 20 years. "X" has always been unusual and several years ago was diagnosed as being schitzophrenic. During this time he lived in a different city and the diagnosis came after a number of episodes which ranged in severity. Until a few years ago he had never had an episode around us. Then he had a couple which involved inappropriate touching towards me. We then made it clear we could no longer have him around at least we thought we made it clear. Tonight he turned up. Luckily DH was here but being soft we let him in and gave him coffee (very hard to turn a such a long term friend away), he made it clear he thought he was staying the night and DH said no that we could no longer have him stay using the children as a reason (he had no concept of being inappropriate the last few times so it doesn't pay to talk to him about this as he just denies it so DH told him that now we have children we can no longer have announced guests as it is disruptive and inconvenient) He has left. What do I do if he turns up here when DH isn't about. I am going to have to tell him he can't come in but how do I word it....I am crap at this, I want to preserve his feelings and to some degree the friendship as it obviously still means something to him but at the same time under no circumstances do I want to be alone with him or want him around my children.
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