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How does depression impact children?

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mulranno Mon 26-Sep-11 14:45:48

What is the official line on the impact of depression on children? What has it been like for you if you were the child of a depressed parent? How do you see your depression impacting on your children? What can I do to minimise the impact?

cestlavielife Mon 26-Sep-11 15:59:25

there is a good chapter in anne sheffield -
How You Can Survive When They're Depressed : Living and Coping with Depression Fallout [Paperback]
Anne Sheffield

to sum up and paraphrase:
plenty of time spent away from the depressed person, with non-depressed happy people, can mitigate the long term effects for children

bruffin Mon 26-Sep-11 16:23:22

I don't have depression, but dh has all his life on and off. DC's are teenagers now and DH has just gone through a bad patch to do with mid life crisis etc. I think it has made them extremely understanding and caring children.DH has made it up to them and they do get to go to a lot of gigs and he runs thems around everywhere to parties etc just makes sure they have a lot to enjoy in life.

mulranno Mon 26-Sep-11 16:53:17

bruffin....have you been open and honest with the children and told them what is going on? I have not done this -only my husband and sisters "know" that I experience depression

bruffin Mon 26-Sep-11 17:04:46

Yes, not so much when they were younger just daddy was tired or not feeling well, but this last year they have known everything because it did affect them a lot. I don't think I regret involving them because it really has been all consuming. Thankfully we seem to be coming through the worst of it and I am getting DH back, but it is their understanding that has helped so much. I have felt guilty a bit as it almost seemed they were responsible for his mood sometimes, which is a lot to lay on a teenagers shoulders. But I do think it has made them more thoughtful of other people.

mulranno Tue 27-Sep-11 13:00:46

I am wondering whether I should share it with my oldest (13) as I think that he has my tendencies as well - and I think that he has borne the brunt of my episodes

bruffin Tue 27-Sep-11 13:28:50

My DD has only turned 14 last week, so was the same age and my DS only just turned 16. I don't know your children, but I do think there is so much secrecy around mh issues and it can't be good.

mulranno Tue 27-Sep-11 14:07:06

Might have a look at some of the MH charity websites to see if they have any advice or resources about "coming out" to children

cestlavielife Tue 27-Sep-11 19:46:15

there is a good book canadian but good - good starting point for discussing with your dc anyway for age 9 up i would say

Can I Catch It Like a Cold?: Coping with a Parent's Depression [Hardcover]
Centre for Addiction and Mental Health, Joe Weissmann

cestlavielife Tue 27-Sep-11 19:46:50

sorri wrong link!!

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