So I've been thinking a LOT lately. I have 3 dcs aged 3, 2 and 7m. I work part time (alone in an office). I have a great dh, works mon-fri 7-6, but very hands on when he's home. I live in my dh's home town. My dad was in the army so I don't have a 'home town', anywhere I am 'from'. Therefore no long term friends/friends really. I do have one good friend, through our ds's being the same age, but we don't see each other alone so can't chat as such. My family all live away, parents are abroad.
I love the dc's so intensly, no problems with bonding etc.
I have mood swings quite regularly, I can get very angry and shout/rant at dh for ages at least once a week over the most trivial things. On my days off with the kids I feel fed up/exhausted/can't be bothered...some days at least once a week I panic after lunch as we're still in p.j's, so quickly get the dc's washed and dressed. Then look at the house and it's a bomb site, panic that I need to sort it out before dh gets home etc , then do some last minute tidying/cleaning so it looks 'on-top of' before he walks in. I can sit at the computer for ages. Today I've got lots to do, yet I haven't done anything.
We're very skint, yet I chose to spend 400 pounds on a weekend away for us all instead of paying some bills. I have had a little extra money this week that I wasn't expecting, I know I should pay these bills, I've I court/bailiff warnings. But I'm dying to get into town and spend the money on dc's clothes etc...trying to resisit. I've always been very frilvalous with money, but when I had dc1 that changed and i'VE BEEN GOOD FOR 3 1/2 years, but I feel I could fall out of control again.
I change my mimnd eveyday about what I want to do with my 'life', one day I tell people I'm going to re-train as a teacher, the next I'm going to study medicine, the next a social worker and so on and so on. I get obsessed and stay up all night researching and 'planning' my life.
Sometimes I think people think I'm weird, if I talk to someone, even if I don't know them, I come out with alsorts at a hundred mile an hour...I can see them looking at me and try and shut up but I don't seem to have a stop button. I don't make friends easily.
I'm a dreamer, I always have been. I was depressed through my teenage years, I was uncontrolable. I used to go off from home for 2 weeks at a time, I was 14/15yrs old. This was a constant thing. I would drink a LOT of alcohol a LOT of the time. I felt unloved/hated myself. I left home at 16. Lived in a pub, drank alot, spent every penny and more, slept with a LOT of men from the ages of 16-20. I met my dh just when I was 21. We drank a lot, ahd fun going out etc for a year or so, but then we calmed down. Something in me changed and for some reason I was happy with him. In the first few years of our relationship we moved house 8 times, me insisting.
I've been up feeling paranoid about different things in my life the last few nights. Such as my mum 'keeping' me away from my father's side of the family...I actually think my grandmother is great but my mum;'s always fed me stories, makes me feel guilty if I have a relatonship with her. I don't have any contact with aunts/cousins etc. I've been thinking there can't be something wrong with all ofthem? What have they done? So has my mum kept me 'alone' on purpose? I'm so confused. I have so much on my mind and I can't clear it.
I worry about losing control, as I want the best for my dc, but I feel like I'm going mad.
I don't know what's wrong with me. After ds2 I thought these feelings would pass, but they haven't. I have good days too, so then I think I was just having a bad day. I booked a dr's app. but don't know what to say. I didn't turn up. I'm very good at faking being happy/putting a smile on.
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itsconfusing · 07/09/2011 11:37
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