Hi there,
I feel a bit about posting this because I know there are people out there with bigger problems than me, but I really am in need of some support/guidance as to where to go from here and I know so many people will probably have been in a similar position. If the response is a big kick up the backside then I will try and take it with grace.
I was 'diagnosed' with PND when DD was 4 weeks old (now 20 weeks), by a rubbish GP, it was a case of fill in the Edinburgh scale, I see you scored highly, you have PND, here is a prescription. I was in a bad way then, not bonding, a state of constant anxiety, etc. I never collected the prescription, for two reasons, partly because I felt it was early and I wanted to see how things panned out (i.e. how much of it was still coming to terms with the enormous shock of becoming a Mum), and partly because I scared myself a bit reading about the meds online (stoopid icon).
Things did improve a lot, and by 19 weeks I could say I had had about 3 weeks of really mainly good days.
The last week I've taken a bit of a nosedive.
The thing is, I don't know how much I am just wallowing for no purpose. I still feel guilty for giving up BF after a very stressful first week of DD refusing to feed and losing 18% of her body weight (thrived as soon as she had a bottle). DD then at 7 weeks started to suffer from silent reflux (not the pukey kind, the screaming acid burning kind), which she is now on meds for, but which has prompted me (on advice of Drs) to try solids at 20 weeks, and to be honest, she is so much happier, but I again feel guilty about it. But I think I make myself worse by coming on here reading about how much better breast milk is than formula, and the 'dangers of early weaning'. She's also ended up (without being forced) in a very Gina Ford style routine, in her cot in her own room, and so now I can beat myself up for not being a sling-wearing co-sleeping BF on demand Mum, as apparently it would all be so much better for DD. Those Mums just seem so superior to me, who is doing it all wrong.
I really wonder whether I am to blame for me feeling like this, am I just being self-indulgent and wallowing out of self-pity/loathing or something? At what point, and more importantly how, do I just say, enough is enough, BF is over, let it go, you've started solids now, and she's better, so move on. How do I make myself do this?
I should add my DH is wonderful and very supportive, and I have plenty of friends/family/help close by so I'm lucky in so many ways.
I start back to work in 6 weeks and in some ways I think it will be good for me, as I think it might help me stop stressing the small stuff, but in other ways I'm sad that I will miss out on being with my DD, and that I feel like I have made such a hash of the 6 months I have had.
I'm sorry for this post, I don't know where else to ask this stuff.
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'mild' PND and moving on - self-indulgent post
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Deliaskis · 06/07/2011 21:16
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