I don't really know what to do or where to start or even if there's anything 'wrong' with me.
won't bore you with everything, but, in a nutshell have a 3.4mo dd. history of anxiety issues and bad emetophobia limiting my life and had an extremely difficult pg, being signed off most of the time and lots of extreme anxiety in this time.
since having dd, I've felt alot better in myself than where i was and feel happy in general in myself and as a mother but i am suffering from extremely low self esteem/self worth having gone up 3 dress sizes since pre preg (and was a size 16 pre preg). i try to talk to dh about this and he tries to understand but he doesn't know what to do about it, and neither do i. the other night he ried his best to say compliments (very rare for dh to do) and all he came out with were things like i was a good mum and thoughtful - nothing about id he finds me attractive or anything and i know he doesn't when i look like this. I went this morning to buy some new clothes having hardy any that fit me and cried all the way home at how nothing fittes/how terrible i looked in everything. it does get to the point where i don't want to go out and see anyone as i don't want them to see me like this. i cry when dh tries to be, ahem, intimate with me as i don't want him to be with me when i'm like this and i don't feel worthy of anything. i feel desperate to excercise but too tired and have a back problem preventing me in doing most things. i am seeing the physio tomorrow re: back and i don't want to go as i've not felt i'm worth enough to even bother with the excercises she gave me so why bother. i know the physio won't be happy with me. i try and go for walks locally but the roads arn't the sort you can walk down safely and i just don't have the time/energy.
i also have lots of anxiety related to my emetophobia - i am paranoid every day that dd will get sick and i won't be able to look after her. i eat all the time as i get really hungry with bfing and if i don't i get that shaky nauseous blood sugar feeling and i panic i might be sick.
i'm sure there's more i can't even remember. my mw is keeping an eye on me as a pnd questionnaire i did came out quite high i think (but she didn't say this in so many words) but i haven't mentioned any this to her as i can't bear anyone in rl to know, and, i am happy most/some of the time when i manage to forget all my problems. I have no idea if this is pnd or just me or something everyone feels, and, when i'm not in a down mood i forget how bad i can be. i'm sorry - i meant this to be sort and yet there's so much more i didn't say. i don't even know why i'm posting this, i think it just helps to tell someone, anyone.
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reastie · 16/06/2011 13:34
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